Stupid
Good Day. While working hard and putting up with crap, Judy grabbed Allison and I learned later they went shopping at the bead store. Now I really don't care as I really wouldn't have wanted to go and appreciated that I did not get dragged. I kept working and thought this was a good time to go to lunch.
Now when I say go to lunch. I mean actually getting up and leaving. I haven't taken a break in over a year and rarely take lunch. Now I eat, but it is mostly at my desk. No time or we don't make our deadlines. I have said for over a month that at some point I wanted to leave and go get something and not think about work. So I looked and the clock on the computer said 11:29. If you don't get anywhere by 11:45, you can forget getting in and out in decent time.
I called someone (who is not important) and asked if they wanted to go. They had expressed the same desire a week prior. I also advised if the answer was yes they would have to head for the front door then and not stop for anything or we would not eat. She said yes and I ran up front, advised I was leaving (I thought I said for lunch but would be corrected later) and then seeing her look ran back and said "But I will be back of course" and ran. We went to Outback and I had steak and salad. Not that I can afford a $20 lunch everyday but it was better than a cold $7 sandwich in front of my computer. I don't wear a watch and found that we had been gone 1.5 hours so we dashed back.
Apparently my colleagues were concerned because of the way I dashed and took so long to come back. I asked why my cell or my pager weren't called and no real answer was provided. Got the cold shoulder for a while.
But this is the way I see it...
If I had gone with ANY one of them it would not have even been questioned. The fact that I went outside our group was perceived as a threat... but it isn't.
now for part 2
A former member of our team will be in town for Cinco De Mayo. None of us are latin or really celebrate but I said we would meet John for drinks that night. Now all of resource is going but we did not invite our boss.
Now this is intentional.
He isn't a bad guy. We are just a really tight knit group and we cannot say things or do things that tight people do because of the hourly people around us. We don't do anything bad, but just try to always be politically correct and always say and do the right things. We need to blow off every now and then. We used to go to dinner as a group once in a while and with there only being 7 of us, it was held as a pretty good secret. Never even really encountered someone else from work. And we've only done this like four times in the last two years. But those times are the really good ones that we remember. The rules are unspoken that we don't even bring spouses or others along... The last time however we brought one of group that had just been promoted to a coach and she brought a section manager along. Now none of us felt comfortable to say anything. And we brought our ex leader who brought her 13 year old daughter. Yeah. No sex jokes at the table either. We just wanted this to be OUR time.
Then Judy cracks a joke about thinking the Mayo in cinco de mayo meant 5 with our boss tonight who is of mexican descent. He came to us from California. Yeah, she doesn't know spanish. That lead to her saying she would learn when we all went to Cinco De Mayo. Her eyes grew big as she realized she had dropped it but it was too late. Ralph played it off but it was obvious he was hurt that we were doing something as group and we had not invited him. I said afterward that we had to bring him and now to make it up but Allison said.. well never mind what she said but he wasn't invited.
Now to top it all of he was across the hall and had not really left. So I can only assume he probably heard what we were saying then.
Double shit.
I can't think of any way so far to talk to him to understand that this is a resource deal and even though he is adopted resource, we are a very core group. This has nothing to do with him.
Sometimes I feel like a shit when having to deal with crap like this. I know he feels bad but this never involved him then doesn't involve him now.
*double sigh*
Now when I say go to lunch. I mean actually getting up and leaving. I haven't taken a break in over a year and rarely take lunch. Now I eat, but it is mostly at my desk. No time or we don't make our deadlines. I have said for over a month that at some point I wanted to leave and go get something and not think about work. So I looked and the clock on the computer said 11:29. If you don't get anywhere by 11:45, you can forget getting in and out in decent time.
I called someone (who is not important) and asked if they wanted to go. They had expressed the same desire a week prior. I also advised if the answer was yes they would have to head for the front door then and not stop for anything or we would not eat. She said yes and I ran up front, advised I was leaving (I thought I said for lunch but would be corrected later) and then seeing her look ran back and said "But I will be back of course" and ran. We went to Outback and I had steak and salad. Not that I can afford a $20 lunch everyday but it was better than a cold $7 sandwich in front of my computer. I don't wear a watch and found that we had been gone 1.5 hours so we dashed back.
Apparently my colleagues were concerned because of the way I dashed and took so long to come back. I asked why my cell or my pager weren't called and no real answer was provided. Got the cold shoulder for a while.
But this is the way I see it...
If I had gone with ANY one of them it would not have even been questioned. The fact that I went outside our group was perceived as a threat... but it isn't.
now for part 2
A former member of our team will be in town for Cinco De Mayo. None of us are latin or really celebrate but I said we would meet John for drinks that night. Now all of resource is going but we did not invite our boss.
Now this is intentional.
He isn't a bad guy. We are just a really tight knit group and we cannot say things or do things that tight people do because of the hourly people around us. We don't do anything bad, but just try to always be politically correct and always say and do the right things. We need to blow off every now and then. We used to go to dinner as a group once in a while and with there only being 7 of us, it was held as a pretty good secret. Never even really encountered someone else from work. And we've only done this like four times in the last two years. But those times are the really good ones that we remember. The rules are unspoken that we don't even bring spouses or others along... The last time however we brought one of group that had just been promoted to a coach and she brought a section manager along. Now none of us felt comfortable to say anything. And we brought our ex leader who brought her 13 year old daughter. Yeah. No sex jokes at the table either. We just wanted this to be OUR time.
Then Judy cracks a joke about thinking the Mayo in cinco de mayo meant 5 with our boss tonight who is of mexican descent. He came to us from California. Yeah, she doesn't know spanish. That lead to her saying she would learn when we all went to Cinco De Mayo. Her eyes grew big as she realized she had dropped it but it was too late. Ralph played it off but it was obvious he was hurt that we were doing something as group and we had not invited him. I said afterward that we had to bring him and now to make it up but Allison said.. well never mind what she said but he wasn't invited.
Now to top it all of he was across the hall and had not really left. So I can only assume he probably heard what we were saying then.
Double shit.
I can't think of any way so far to talk to him to understand that this is a resource deal and even though he is adopted resource, we are a very core group. This has nothing to do with him.
Sometimes I feel like a shit when having to deal with crap like this. I know he feels bad but this never involved him then doesn't involve him now.
*double sigh*