Big mouth strikes again
I have not had much to say on live drivel lately. Actually, maybe I should be honest and rephrase that, I have had quite a bit to say but decided for once, to take Christian's advice about how some things just aren't worth it.
But I am awake early this morning and in the mood to finally say what I have to.
I figured since some people are allowed to speak to me or Christian however they wish when we are over at their house, all due to the fact that the pay the mortgage, then this is my live journal and at one point I did pay for it and I should be able to say whatever it is that *I* want to say.
What prompted this was a conversation that I had with my Mother this morning. She brought something up that I thought was rather, um...laughable, all things considered.
I would like to clear this up for just a tiny little moment:
When I have to make a series of phone calls to my own Mother--phone calls that were in regard to something SHE asked me to find out for her--I find it completely absurd that *someone* would make the comment that I was calling several times on "purpose" to somehow disrupt(?) a family gathering.
The Commenter must think very highly of themselves to believe that anyone would give two shits what was going on over at their house, let alone care enough to call merely to be annoying.
Surely, that comment was taken way out of context. It just had to be.
Furthermore, I am not into making excuses for people who I think enjoy causing trouble and conflict. People who get off on making comments just to annoy people. Nor do I enjoy someone who can act like a childish asshole and then turn around and get angry whenever they get an unfavorable response.
I don't care how someone was raised, that is not a valid enough reason, in my opinion, to act like a child.
I am also quite sick of the "I am just soooooooooo misunderstood" spiel. I am sick of it from anyone who truly believes it. First of all, I have yet to meet ANYONE who provided such an element of mystery as to make them "misunderstood." No, what that is, is a cop out, a big excuse to say, do and act however you wish to people and whenever you offend them, or get a response that you don't agree with, then you can always default back to the "misunderstood" card.
Well, it is utter bullshit.
Yeah, sure, I bet there really *are* some genuinely "misunderstood" people out there...they all are in high school, in Drama and listen to lots and lots of The Cure. Hopefully, they are not in their mid to late thirties.
I wish I could claim to be misunderstood. My life would be so much easier. I would be able to make asshole comments and act like a big infant and it would be forgivable because I would be considered such a complex and misunderstood creature.
Wrong answer.
As I said, I have yet to meet any great enigmas in my time. So, chances are, you ARE understood, loud and fucking clear.
Otherwise, you are thinking pretty highly about yourself and the level of your...um..."complexity".
I have begun to realize that there is often times a valid reason why someone people just don't have any friends. Maybe it is due to a lack of social skills. Maybe it is because on top of being *offensive* they are also *defensive* and that combination is pretty fucked up.
And last but not least, when Chris and I lived in Jax, he paid the rent all the way toward the end of our living there. It was his apartment just as much as it was mine. And I would never in a million years even DREAM of telling someone in my immediate family that he could say what he pleases to the them strictly because it is his place.
That's pretty fucked up. But like the comment about the phone calls, I am sure that too was taken out of context. Maybe there are two "misunderstood: people as opposed to just one.
It is funny how people flip-flop and forget who has been there for them. Maybe other people need to think long and hard about who in their life really is trustworthy and who truly isn't. They might be surprised.
But I am awake early this morning and in the mood to finally say what I have to.
I figured since some people are allowed to speak to me or Christian however they wish when we are over at their house, all due to the fact that the pay the mortgage, then this is my live journal and at one point I did pay for it and I should be able to say whatever it is that *I* want to say.
What prompted this was a conversation that I had with my Mother this morning. She brought something up that I thought was rather, um...laughable, all things considered.
I would like to clear this up for just a tiny little moment:
When I have to make a series of phone calls to my own Mother--phone calls that were in regard to something SHE asked me to find out for her--I find it completely absurd that *someone* would make the comment that I was calling several times on "purpose" to somehow disrupt(?) a family gathering.
The Commenter must think very highly of themselves to believe that anyone would give two shits what was going on over at their house, let alone care enough to call merely to be annoying.
Surely, that comment was taken way out of context. It just had to be.
Furthermore, I am not into making excuses for people who I think enjoy causing trouble and conflict. People who get off on making comments just to annoy people. Nor do I enjoy someone who can act like a childish asshole and then turn around and get angry whenever they get an unfavorable response.
I don't care how someone was raised, that is not a valid enough reason, in my opinion, to act like a child.
I am also quite sick of the "I am just soooooooooo misunderstood" spiel. I am sick of it from anyone who truly believes it. First of all, I have yet to meet ANYONE who provided such an element of mystery as to make them "misunderstood." No, what that is, is a cop out, a big excuse to say, do and act however you wish to people and whenever you offend them, or get a response that you don't agree with, then you can always default back to the "misunderstood" card.
Well, it is utter bullshit.
Yeah, sure, I bet there really *are* some genuinely "misunderstood" people out there...they all are in high school, in Drama and listen to lots and lots of The Cure. Hopefully, they are not in their mid to late thirties.
I wish I could claim to be misunderstood. My life would be so much easier. I would be able to make asshole comments and act like a big infant and it would be forgivable because I would be considered such a complex and misunderstood creature.
Wrong answer.
As I said, I have yet to meet any great enigmas in my time. So, chances are, you ARE understood, loud and fucking clear.
Otherwise, you are thinking pretty highly about yourself and the level of your...um..."complexity".
I have begun to realize that there is often times a valid reason why someone people just don't have any friends. Maybe it is due to a lack of social skills. Maybe it is because on top of being *offensive* they are also *defensive* and that combination is pretty fucked up.
And last but not least, when Chris and I lived in Jax, he paid the rent all the way toward the end of our living there. It was his apartment just as much as it was mine. And I would never in a million years even DREAM of telling someone in my immediate family that he could say what he pleases to the them strictly because it is his place.
That's pretty fucked up. But like the comment about the phone calls, I am sure that too was taken out of context. Maybe there are two "misunderstood: people as opposed to just one.
It is funny how people flip-flop and forget who has been there for them. Maybe other people need to think long and hard about who in their life really is trustworthy and who truly isn't. They might be surprised.