Couples Therapy: Regrets Hang Heavy On My Mind
Regret.
There’s surprisingly little I regret about being with Bobby. I have regrets, but when it comes to Bobby wasting my time on them is pointless. It’s just that I don’t see the point to wasting my time bemoaning all the things that are wrong or difficult in our relationship. In all honesty, I’ve got better things to complain about, like Gracie waking up in the middle of the night or the baby weight I still haven’t lost despite my best efforts. And I’m more upset about the weight than Gracie’s crying. Gracie’s a baby, she’s supposed to do that. My weight isn’t doing what it’s supposed to be doing, which is go down.
I’m not saying that I don’t have regrets. Being with Bobby has been anything but easy. Often, it’s harder than anything else in my life, but it’s there solid and strong. The regrets I have haven’t weakened anything or made me doubtful. I guess it’s because there’s always going to be regrets in a relationship. You always look back and think, “Wow, I should of done this instead of that” or “God, I can’t believe I said that”.
If you keep looking back though, all the mistakes are going to pile up and you’re going to end things because all you’ll see are the mistakes. You can look back, but you can’t change those things so it’s better to look forward to the future and how to fix these things. Relationships are work and you’ve got to work at them. Spending all your time regretting things is a waste of time.
So, I’ve got my regrets, but I don’t let them rule me.
There’s surprisingly little I regret about being with Bobby. I have regrets, but when it comes to Bobby wasting my time on them is pointless. It’s just that I don’t see the point to wasting my time bemoaning all the things that are wrong or difficult in our relationship. In all honesty, I’ve got better things to complain about, like Gracie waking up in the middle of the night or the baby weight I still haven’t lost despite my best efforts. And I’m more upset about the weight than Gracie’s crying. Gracie’s a baby, she’s supposed to do that. My weight isn’t doing what it’s supposed to be doing, which is go down.
I’m not saying that I don’t have regrets. Being with Bobby has been anything but easy. Often, it’s harder than anything else in my life, but it’s there solid and strong. The regrets I have haven’t weakened anything or made me doubtful. I guess it’s because there’s always going to be regrets in a relationship. You always look back and think, “Wow, I should of done this instead of that” or “God, I can’t believe I said that”.
If you keep looking back though, all the mistakes are going to pile up and you’re going to end things because all you’ll see are the mistakes. You can look back, but you can’t change those things so it’s better to look forward to the future and how to fix these things. Relationships are work and you’ve got to work at them. Spending all your time regretting things is a waste of time.
So, I’ve got my regrets, but I don’t let them rule me.