WTF?
At a birthday party for an extended family member, another extended family member said "I have an announcement to make: [husband] and I are going to start trying to have a baby!" WTF? I... just... WTF? Where to start? Did no one teach you manners, woman? I know for damn sure your father's polite; how'd you end up like this?
Manners Rule #1 That You Apparently Missed: A birthday party is for the birthday person. Do not take attention away from the guest of honor by announcing your own shit. That goes double now that we have facebook and you don't have to wait for get-togethers to make announcements.
Manners Rule #2: It is impolite to say something that the listener must later pretend not to have heard: Yes, I'm sure you want applause and congrats and well-wishes now, but what am I supposed to say next time I see you? "Got knocked up yet?" "Is your womb still empty?" The minute I leave this party I will have to never again mention your efforts to get pregnant to you, and I certainly can't ask about how it's going. So why would you tell me? You're sure as hell going to tell everybody when if you get pregnant, so since we can't say another word to you on the subject before that point, why wouldn't you just bring it up then?
Manner Rule #3 - and most important manners lesson you seem to have missed: By definition, when you say you're 'trying' to get pregnant, you are bringing up your sex life, you and your partner's fertility status, and your bodily functions. Do I (or anyone else present) usually discuss those matters with you? No? Are we intimate enough with each other that conversation includes how, when, where, or how often you and your husband have sex? Your periods? The temperature of your vaginal mucus? Do we discuss whether or not you can bear children? No? Then why would we start now? What am I supposed to say: "well, I hear if you fuck with your ankles behind your head and a pillow under your hips, it aids conception - are you going to try that? Maybe just the pillow?" There is practically no part of the conception process that we can make appropriate conversation about, so why bring it up?
Seriously, people. Unless we already have the sort of relationship where we discuss your sex life, or something as intimate as whether or not you can have children, it is not appropriate you mention your efforts to make a baby. Once you're knocked up, I will listen to you moan about your feet, sore tits, moods, unusual discharge, nausea, etc. and make appropriately sympathetic noises. Until then, keep it to yourself.
Manners Rule #1 That You Apparently Missed: A birthday party is for the birthday person. Do not take attention away from the guest of honor by announcing your own shit. That goes double now that we have facebook and you don't have to wait for get-togethers to make announcements.
Manners Rule #2: It is impolite to say something that the listener must later pretend not to have heard: Yes, I'm sure you want applause and congrats and well-wishes now, but what am I supposed to say next time I see you? "Got knocked up yet?" "Is your womb still empty?" The minute I leave this party I will have to never again mention your efforts to get pregnant to you, and I certainly can't ask about how it's going. So why would you tell me? You're sure as hell going to tell everybody when if you get pregnant, so since we can't say another word to you on the subject before that point, why wouldn't you just bring it up then?
Manner Rule #3 - and most important manners lesson you seem to have missed: By definition, when you say you're 'trying' to get pregnant, you are bringing up your sex life, you and your partner's fertility status, and your bodily functions. Do I (or anyone else present) usually discuss those matters with you? No? Are we intimate enough with each other that conversation includes how, when, where, or how often you and your husband have sex? Your periods? The temperature of your vaginal mucus? Do we discuss whether or not you can bear children? No? Then why would we start now? What am I supposed to say: "well, I hear if you fuck with your ankles behind your head and a pillow under your hips, it aids conception - are you going to try that? Maybe just the pillow?" There is practically no part of the conception process that we can make appropriate conversation about, so why bring it up?
Seriously, people. Unless we already have the sort of relationship where we discuss your sex life, or something as intimate as whether or not you can have children, it is not appropriate you mention your efforts to make a baby. Once you're knocked up, I will listen to you moan about your feet, sore tits, moods, unusual discharge, nausea, etc. and make appropriately sympathetic noises. Until then, keep it to yourself.