Weakness in submissives?
I was watching House this evening, which just happened to be about a lifestyle submissive male whose injury was aggravated (perhaps caused by, initially) play. Strangulation, to be specific.
Discussions of breathplay always seem to come with a certain number of disclaimers. In this case, I'm far more willing to swing towards RACK than SSC. I am entirely aware of the risk associated with play. These risks are not enough to dissuade me from the practice. I enjoy having my air supply cut off. I prefer that my partners be very careful when doing so from my throat, so as to prevent damage, which was mostly the point of this particular episode.
I'm not offended by the depiction of bdsm activies as unsafe....no, wait, I am, but that's not really the point. The point is that the male sub "Ronald" (I think) was depicted as weak and unable to function. Ronald was suffering from strokes (yes, multiple) and in the process of being interviewed tended to defer to his Domme on medical and personal questions that really should have been answered by him. (and really, while i'm bitching, why the need to say "dominatrix"? The only time I ever hear that term used is by pros, although I suppose the need to enforce that's a term a lay person is likely to understand) When it came down to it, Ronald needed to consent to an operation, and instead he whimpered cried and was UNABLE to do so. The insinuation that this was simply part of his "perverstion" is shocking to me.
I'm using myself for the basis of a lot of this, and hell, it's my journal and I'll do so if I please, but I don't think I'm at all in the minority. I am a strong, independant woman, capable of taking care of myself, and occasionally others. I make my own decisions, I support myself...the list goes on and on. Even if it was in a 24/7 D/s relationship, I can't imagine being micromanaged to the extent that I no longer had to make decisions, or would become unable to. I enjoy being taken care of, of being told what to do. But this is certainly not a neccessity. (That would make my being single a very difficult experience.)
It seems to me that it would be far more valuable to have a submissive who is interesting in their own well being. Someone not invested in their health, both physical and mental just doesn't seem like a good candidate for a relationship that is demanding of both body and soul.
Discussions of breathplay always seem to come with a certain number of disclaimers. In this case, I'm far more willing to swing towards RACK than SSC. I am entirely aware of the risk associated with play. These risks are not enough to dissuade me from the practice. I enjoy having my air supply cut off. I prefer that my partners be very careful when doing so from my throat, so as to prevent damage, which was mostly the point of this particular episode.
I'm not offended by the depiction of bdsm activies as unsafe....no, wait, I am, but that's not really the point. The point is that the male sub "Ronald" (I think) was depicted as weak and unable to function. Ronald was suffering from strokes (yes, multiple) and in the process of being interviewed tended to defer to his Domme on medical and personal questions that really should have been answered by him. (and really, while i'm bitching, why the need to say "dominatrix"? The only time I ever hear that term used is by pros, although I suppose the need to enforce that's a term a lay person is likely to understand) When it came down to it, Ronald needed to consent to an operation, and instead he whimpered cried and was UNABLE to do so. The insinuation that this was simply part of his "perverstion" is shocking to me.
I'm using myself for the basis of a lot of this, and hell, it's my journal and I'll do so if I please, but I don't think I'm at all in the minority. I am a strong, independant woman, capable of taking care of myself, and occasionally others. I make my own decisions, I support myself...the list goes on and on. Even if it was in a 24/7 D/s relationship, I can't imagine being micromanaged to the extent that I no longer had to make decisions, or would become unable to. I enjoy being taken care of, of being told what to do. But this is certainly not a neccessity. (That would make my being single a very difficult experience.)
It seems to me that it would be far more valuable to have a submissive who is interesting in their own well being. Someone not invested in their health, both physical and mental just doesn't seem like a good candidate for a relationship that is demanding of both body and soul.