Four-and-a-half years later
Nobody reads LiveJournal anymore, and I like that.
It's been a while since last time (as stated in the subject) and A LOT has changed in that time. Here's a brief rundown of my life at the moment:
- Andi and I broke up in the summer of 2011; I am now a single dad. I see Jack all the time though because we split custody 50/50, right down the middle. We're still friendly with each other.
- I have lived in Austin since summer of 2011 (the split happened about a month after I moved here). I have worked with the same company for this entire time, and I really enjoy my job and what I spend my days doing.
- Jackson is now 4 years old and insanely awesome. I feel like every time I talk to him, he gets cooler.
I guess those are the biggest changes in the last 4 years. All-in-all, life is good. It may sound weird, but I really enjoy the freedom that comes with being single again, especially as is relates to having children. Yeah, it can be REALLY difficult sometimes, but it is nice being able to do what I want, when I want, without having to consult someone else (especially if that someone is really negative and shoots down the things that I would like to do, about 70% of the time). If I want to go to the beach with Jack and my family with less than a week notice, I can (and do). On the downside of things, I always felt strange having a child out of wedlock and now that feeling it still there, but it is coupled with the stress it could put on him. Honestly, I was really worried about it, but he knows that his mother and I love him more than anything, and he seems to be just fine with that. Sometimes I feel like he is getting a raw deal because of the decisions his mother and I made, but that is just something I have to work through. I have some other single-parent friends and we have had discussions about this before. The consensus is that we all feel this way, but we also realize that it is better for our kids to be raised in 2 homes that are happy (or happier) than in one that has constant tension just building up. At the end of the day, I knew that Andi wasn't the person I wanted to marry when we were together and that just caused a ton of problems (naturally). I also don't think that I was in the mindset of wanting to be married, which I guess is just an indicator of the previous statement. For the first time in my life, I am actually really excited to think about getting married. I am not out looking for this person or anything, but I am excited to meet them, and make that decision. When it is supposed to happen, it will happen, and I am pretty confident in that.
It's been a while since last time (as stated in the subject) and A LOT has changed in that time. Here's a brief rundown of my life at the moment:
- Andi and I broke up in the summer of 2011; I am now a single dad. I see Jack all the time though because we split custody 50/50, right down the middle. We're still friendly with each other.
- I have lived in Austin since summer of 2011 (the split happened about a month after I moved here). I have worked with the same company for this entire time, and I really enjoy my job and what I spend my days doing.
- Jackson is now 4 years old and insanely awesome. I feel like every time I talk to him, he gets cooler.
I guess those are the biggest changes in the last 4 years. All-in-all, life is good. It may sound weird, but I really enjoy the freedom that comes with being single again, especially as is relates to having children. Yeah, it can be REALLY difficult sometimes, but it is nice being able to do what I want, when I want, without having to consult someone else (especially if that someone is really negative and shoots down the things that I would like to do, about 70% of the time). If I want to go to the beach with Jack and my family with less than a week notice, I can (and do). On the downside of things, I always felt strange having a child out of wedlock and now that feeling it still there, but it is coupled with the stress it could put on him. Honestly, I was really worried about it, but he knows that his mother and I love him more than anything, and he seems to be just fine with that. Sometimes I feel like he is getting a raw deal because of the decisions his mother and I made, but that is just something I have to work through. I have some other single-parent friends and we have had discussions about this before. The consensus is that we all feel this way, but we also realize that it is better for our kids to be raised in 2 homes that are happy (or happier) than in one that has constant tension just building up. At the end of the day, I knew that Andi wasn't the person I wanted to marry when we were together and that just caused a ton of problems (naturally). I also don't think that I was in the mindset of wanting to be married, which I guess is just an indicator of the previous statement. For the first time in my life, I am actually really excited to think about getting married. I am not out looking for this person or anything, but I am excited to meet them, and make that decision. When it is supposed to happen, it will happen, and I am pretty confident in that.