My sis called me on Tuesday to ask me if I wanted to accompany her and the kids to my mom's for the Indepence Day holidays. Of course I went
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I understand as a Mom too...reiko01December 10 2012, 02:22:13 UTC
Sometimes my 9 yr old daughter can be overwhelming for me, but that was when she was a lot younger. I think as time went on and she got older, did I really realize I had to be the one who was more patient. That's what my mother kept telling me, to keep being patient w/her and not always scold her often or whatever.
I never thought of myself as being a 'patient' person, esp. when it came to children growing up. I loved playing with my relatives' kids or babies, but never thought that when it came to my own, did I become impatient. =__= I never wanted to be like that with my own, but maybe back then I did become that; I don't know. I never meant to.
All I know is, long ago growing up when I wasn't married and didn't have a child then (my college-years), did she tell me, "You really don't know what it's like until you have your own." SO true. lol
Maybe when you meet the right person in life, you might change your mind and want to have your own some day. Maybe not now, maybe not later, but...in time, you might change. Just always have an open-mind and not shut out the thought of having kids some day, is all. Maybe right now you're just not ready yet to have children, and that's very understandable. I'm in my mid-40s now and LOVE my child to death. No matter how I treated her in the past, I'll NEVER take away what I have with her, and I'll never regret having her either. She's a joy to have in my life and always will be. And, I've always learned a lot from her certain things that've happened in my life compared to when I didn't have her. Sometimes, you can learn from children too. :) (i.e. when you fight w/someone, learn not to keep staying mad at the person for long, etc.)
You notice w/very young toddler-children, when you scold them or they get mad at another toddler, you notice they don't stay mad for long? Not like adults when we argue. Kids and toddlers eventually forget and move on as if nothing ever happened. Psychologists say we should learn from them sometimes on that. :)
Sorry for putting a long reply/comment here. :D Just thought I'd say a thing or two on children, that's all...and about your mother. (I'm a Mom too now.)
I never thought of myself as being a 'patient' person, esp. when it came to children growing up. I loved playing with my relatives' kids or babies, but never thought that when it came to my own, did I become impatient. =__= I never wanted to be like that with my own, but maybe back then I did become that; I don't know. I never meant to.
All I know is, long ago growing up when I wasn't married and didn't have a child then (my college-years), did she tell me, "You really don't know what it's like until you have your own." SO true. lol
Maybe when you meet the right person in life, you might change your mind and want to have your own some day. Maybe not now, maybe not later, but...in time, you might change. Just always have an open-mind and not shut out the thought of having kids some day, is all. Maybe right now you're just not ready yet to have children, and that's very understandable. I'm in my mid-40s now and LOVE my child to death. No matter how I treated her in the past, I'll NEVER take away what I have with her, and I'll never regret having her either. She's a joy to have in my life and always will be. And, I've always learned a lot from her certain things that've happened in my life compared to when I didn't have her. Sometimes, you can learn from children too. :) (i.e. when you fight w/someone, learn not to keep staying mad at the person for long, etc.)
You notice w/very young toddler-children, when you scold them or they get mad at another toddler, you notice they don't stay mad for long? Not like adults when we argue. Kids and toddlers eventually forget and move on as if nothing ever happened. Psychologists say we should learn from them sometimes on that. :)
Sorry for putting a long reply/comment here. :D Just thought I'd say a thing or two on children, that's all...and about your mother. (I'm a Mom too now.)
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