A Scary Learning Experience.
Today I had the most scariest traveling experience of my life! I was wondering if other vi and blind people have had the same thing happen to them. I hate how people force themselves to try and help someone with a disablility even if they don't need it or the person can be too aggressive and forceful or even careless in the way they are helping you!
I was waiting for the bus in my area for over an hour and I soon realized that it was the wrong bus stop because nothing was stopping at my spot. I was unsure as to where the other bus stop was near that spot. I knew it was near my current location. I asked for help and those people just were sure that the one I had waited at for an hour was the right one. Then an older man comes up to me and tells me that I am at the wrong stop. Well duh right? Here is the scary part he grabs my arm and rushes me across the street and it wasn't even safe to cross. He stops half way across the street and realizes it was the other one we had to cross. He runs me back. As we are running I told him that I have enough sight in the day to follow him and he just says no it's ok it is better for me to do it this way. The cars were moving where we were about to cross and he was going to go anyway. I told him that it wasn't safe to cross yet and he told me to just trust him! He pulled me half way across the street he was still holding onto me. We stopped beside the island in the middle of the road cars were honking and rushing behind and infront of me. He just stood there and waved them on there was one period where cars were not coming, but he was still waving them on. I told him to please just get across the streat already! and we eventually did. He then asked me for my name. I didn't give it to him and he then kissed me on the forehead, told me God bless and walked away.
Oh my gosh I was almost in tears. I was at the right spot but still the fact that he didn't listen to me! I'm not stupid I had a cain and I knew it wasn't safe to cross. Ass hole. There is helping and there is being stupid! And that was stupid. This made me see more then before that I need to learn self-defense and more aggressive advocacy skills. I wanted to tell him off and shout get the hell off of me!!! But I am too nice. I can't hurt anyone. If he didn't let go afterwards I have either kicked him or took my cane and hit him where it hurt if ya know what I mean!
I have had other experiences but nothing like this one. One time some old man hit on me at a bus stop, but there were people there. The other time someone grabbed me it was only across one street and he had the sense to wait until it was at least safe!
I'm still shaking writing about it.
I was waiting for the bus in my area for over an hour and I soon realized that it was the wrong bus stop because nothing was stopping at my spot. I was unsure as to where the other bus stop was near that spot. I knew it was near my current location. I asked for help and those people just were sure that the one I had waited at for an hour was the right one. Then an older man comes up to me and tells me that I am at the wrong stop. Well duh right? Here is the scary part he grabs my arm and rushes me across the street and it wasn't even safe to cross. He stops half way across the street and realizes it was the other one we had to cross. He runs me back. As we are running I told him that I have enough sight in the day to follow him and he just says no it's ok it is better for me to do it this way. The cars were moving where we were about to cross and he was going to go anyway. I told him that it wasn't safe to cross yet and he told me to just trust him! He pulled me half way across the street he was still holding onto me. We stopped beside the island in the middle of the road cars were honking and rushing behind and infront of me. He just stood there and waved them on there was one period where cars were not coming, but he was still waving them on. I told him to please just get across the streat already! and we eventually did. He then asked me for my name. I didn't give it to him and he then kissed me on the forehead, told me God bless and walked away.
Oh my gosh I was almost in tears. I was at the right spot but still the fact that he didn't listen to me! I'm not stupid I had a cain and I knew it wasn't safe to cross. Ass hole. There is helping and there is being stupid! And that was stupid. This made me see more then before that I need to learn self-defense and more aggressive advocacy skills. I wanted to tell him off and shout get the hell off of me!!! But I am too nice. I can't hurt anyone. If he didn't let go afterwards I have either kicked him or took my cane and hit him where it hurt if ya know what I mean!
I have had other experiences but nothing like this one. One time some old man hit on me at a bus stop, but there were people there. The other time someone grabbed me it was only across one street and he had the sense to wait until it was at least safe!
I'm still shaking writing about it.