Just something that was on my mind
I wasn't very happy yesterday because I found out that some friends were going to watch a movie that I'd really really been wanting to watch with them. I had expressed said wish beforehand, but it seemed like I was TOLD about it without them considering me in the plans. So what if I couldn't come?! Then I'd be S*** out of luck? No "Amy can you make it?" ??! If it worked out that everyone could do Monday night except me, then by all means, do it. Maybe I'll work it out so that I can come after all. But when it's just two people doing movie night and one of those persons not even caring about said movie... why decide on THAT movie if the person who really wants to watch it didn't even get a say in the plans?
This sounds so high school, right? Honestly, I really cared this time. I try not to expect too much most of the time. But some things I can't help caring about. Lesson learned: Don't want anything, thus don't get disappointed when you don't get it :(
I try very hard to be that chill girl who's cool with whatever. I say 'try' because it's my default nature to worry, plan, and schedule things 2 weeks in advance! What went wrong? I assumed they knew I couldn't make it late Monday. So I thought they went ahead and did it anyways. Likewise, they assumed that I could make it. So they thought Il Mare would be a good choice. I should have calmly expressed that I probably wouldn't be able to make it. A softly spoken, "I probably can't make it, do you think that you can hold off watching that movie? Why don't you watch the Notebook instead?" Instead of biting his head off, hehe. And from the other party, "There's going to be a movie night tomorrow. IF you can come, let's plan on watching Il Mare." Instead of, "Oh hey, I'm watching Il Mare tomorrow night." If it hadn't sounded so definite, then I would have felt comfortable to say, "If you're inviting me too, I have class early on Tuesday, so can we make movie night at an earlier time than usual? Then I will come for sure. I think the other girls who cared about seeing it would prefer an earlier time too."
Dammit, when you plan an event and there's a select population you wish to be present, you gotta ask for their frickin input! Not just input from the girl who doesn't even care!!
Well, the confusion has been cleared up. I've said my peace and it's cleared up in my mind. All shall now be forgotten. Back to the loving <3
This sounds so high school, right? Honestly, I really cared this time. I try not to expect too much most of the time. But some things I can't help caring about. Lesson learned: Don't want anything, thus don't get disappointed when you don't get it :(
I try very hard to be that chill girl who's cool with whatever. I say 'try' because it's my default nature to worry, plan, and schedule things 2 weeks in advance! What went wrong? I assumed they knew I couldn't make it late Monday. So I thought they went ahead and did it anyways. Likewise, they assumed that I could make it. So they thought Il Mare would be a good choice. I should have calmly expressed that I probably wouldn't be able to make it. A softly spoken, "I probably can't make it, do you think that you can hold off watching that movie? Why don't you watch the Notebook instead?" Instead of biting his head off, hehe. And from the other party, "There's going to be a movie night tomorrow. IF you can come, let's plan on watching Il Mare." Instead of, "Oh hey, I'm watching Il Mare tomorrow night." If it hadn't sounded so definite, then I would have felt comfortable to say, "If you're inviting me too, I have class early on Tuesday, so can we make movie night at an earlier time than usual? Then I will come for sure. I think the other girls who cared about seeing it would prefer an earlier time too."
Dammit, when you plan an event and there's a select population you wish to be present, you gotta ask for their frickin input! Not just input from the girl who doesn't even care!!
Well, the confusion has been cleared up. I've said my peace and it's cleared up in my mind. All shall now be forgotten. Back to the loving <3