well I miss you Caden.

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Well there are some things that make no sense. I am a bad guy and all that. Teness, bottom line is I fought for our family to stay together from day one. All that crap about abortion and I stood strong. You're right I am not the one who birthed Caden. Does that really make you more of a parent.....you are more a part of his life now and all

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[ozora530]

Ok, I was going to stay out of this but since you left me that voicemail it is time for me to speak up. For one, I am not nor will I ever take sides between you and Teness. You guys are both my good friends. For two, yes Kevin and Teness met through me. Sue me. She did not go out to "meet guys" she went out to have fun because I wanted to get her mind off things and Kevin was at the club with us. He is my friend, people me my friends and become friends with them. By the way, you and Teness both met Kevin before that at my birthday party so don't start on that shit Josh. Yes I said I would try and help your's and Ness's realtionship to the best that I could, but I tried my hardest and I can't change people's minds. Things are better this way and I don't understand why you can't understand that, nor be mine or her friend. For God sake Josh, you had a baby with this girl, you should be able to be friends with her. You keep saying, I'm happy if she's happy even if it's not with me. Well guess what, your not being happy for her. She is not with Kevin, so that's not the point. The hole Caden thing, ok, now I'm going to get into this. Teness has offered more then a millon times for you to see tator, but you just don't. Seeing him once a week or once every month is unexceptable. He is your child no matter how pissed off you are at Teness and you need to take ownership and go see him every second you have. It's CADEN FIRST and Teness and Josh last. Stop being selfish. Don't blame Caden for your's and Teness's problems. Josh you are better then this. You were raised better then this. As I read on, I read more about Kevin. No you guys didn't "just" split up, Teness broke up with you a few months ago because of your temper. She tried to work it out and you just got worse and more pissed off. She didn't go out and "try" to meet guys, it just happened to be a fluke that Julie has guy friends, and Teness hung out with Julie and met her guy friends. Big fucking deal Josh. So what if she likes Kevin, are you pissed because someone can maker her more happy then you can right now? Maybe you should stop blamming everyone and focus on what you are doing wrong. If I had a child, and my ex. told me the only way I could see him right now until I can show that I can take care of an infant on my own was to come to a house I was kicked out of for hitting your father, then I would do it in a heartbeat because my child comes first no matter how uncomfortable I may be or how unwelcomed I may be, I'm with my child and that's all that matters at that point of time. If you want to keep cutting down Kevin, I will not tolerate it. He is a good friend of mine and has stuck by me through everything with the hole Eddy situation. It's not his fault Josh, deal with it. IT's your's and Teness fault that things didnt work out because you guys both have differences that you could not put aside so why should you be with someone who is constantly going to fight with you and you fight with her? That is not a realtionship, and that is not worth the time nor the hassel. I will tell you this, not to hurt you but to make you realize something, Kevin makes Teness very happy. They are not together, but yes hang out a lot, why because he makes her happy. He doesn't yell at her, he doesn't do "other" things to her (and you know what I'm talking about) and he is there for her if she needs to vent.

[ozora530]

Ok, to talk about Teness not letting you spend your "own" time with tator. Yes she needs to let you do that no matter what. She doesn't have a choice. He is your son and he loves his daddy. But, the more you go over to see tator, the more it is that tator will be comfortable with you and you will be with him. You and Ness are both new parents and are learning things about how to make tator happy. Unfortantely Teness had to do that no matter what because she didn't have time where she had to go to work every day, or got to go a week without seeing him, she was forced to be there 24/7, why because that is what a mother does. I know you work, but you should be over there every other day seeing that little boy. Your missing out on so much Josh I don't understand why you are not making the effort to go over there or call every single damn day a millon times a day to ask how he is doing or to see what new he did today. Even if you can't go over to her house, you should be calling all the time to see how he is doing. Not to fight with Teness, not to bring up your old realtionship because that is LAST, Caden comes FIRST, but to say, how is Caden doing today, can I talk to him? Even though he can't talk back, he still can listen to Daddy over the phone. That is part of being a parent. Ok, I'm done lecturing, I got what I had to say out. I still love you Josh a lot and hope you still want to be my friend. Yes I am friends with Teness and friends with Kevin and WILL remain friends with them. IF you can't handle that then I'm very sorry and will know that our friendship didn't mean that much to you. This is your time to yell at me back and tell me what you think about my comment because the more you talk, the more I hope you will realize what is going on and get out what is on your chest because I'm here for you. That's what friends are for, even if you yell at me, I still love you.