People I want to punch in the face
Dan's parents
They have completely taken over the wedding, won't tell me or my mom what's going on, but get mad when she doesn't send them a check to pay for things. What is she even paying for? We don't know. Additionally, they forget that the reception isn't the only part of a wedding that costs money, so now Dan and I are paying out of pocket for a bunch of stuff, which we clearly have no money for. They called him and yelled/swore at him yesterday because he hadn't sent the contract for the venue in. Did they tell us that it needed to be done? No. HOW THE HELL ARE WE SUPPOSED TO JUST KNOW THESE THINGS? If you need something, I am more than happy to help, but you have to inform me that you need it.
Top that off with the fact that when they need something from my mom the call Dan and tell him to tell me to tell my mom. Our parents live 10 minutes away from each other tops. My mom is off work after surgery right now, so she is home all day. You can visit, you can call, you can email. All acceptable options. Hell, we even have a fax machine if that's your thing. Why are you putting Dan and I in the middle? It would be one thing if we were in the middle and they actually informed us of what was going on, but now.
So now we are paying TONS of money for a wedding that I hate and have absolutely no say in. My dad is furious because his parents can't keep to the budget, and are expecting my parents to pay for all this extra stuff, even though we (my parents, Dan and I) have all been very clear that this is a strict budget. My mom set up a meeting for my parents, us and his parents to sit down and talk about this. My dad is super mad that I'm not getting what I want and they are making all of the decisions. The worst part is the fact that it's not like I'm asking for the moon. I just want to be able to choose what we have for dinner and be a little creative with the reception. Originally I just wanted a small wedding in my backyard. They are shelling out thousands of dollars for a wedding I don't want!!!!!! It makes me sick inside. There is so much more that could be done with that money. Dan and I need a car, an apartment, and I have to pay application fees for grad school, plus the actual cost of going to grad school! Why are we spending so much on a totally crappy-ass wedding?
This crap started yesterday and has started again today, with a text from my mom at 9:30 this morning. It's been going on since! It just makes me sick inside to think about all this money being spent on something so awful, and all the yelling and stuff that goes with it. I've already cried once today....
But it feels like it's too late for anything to really change. We are six weeks away and the invitations have been sent out.
I don't even want to go to my own wedding....
They have completely taken over the wedding, won't tell me or my mom what's going on, but get mad when she doesn't send them a check to pay for things. What is she even paying for? We don't know. Additionally, they forget that the reception isn't the only part of a wedding that costs money, so now Dan and I are paying out of pocket for a bunch of stuff, which we clearly have no money for. They called him and yelled/swore at him yesterday because he hadn't sent the contract for the venue in. Did they tell us that it needed to be done? No. HOW THE HELL ARE WE SUPPOSED TO JUST KNOW THESE THINGS? If you need something, I am more than happy to help, but you have to inform me that you need it.
Top that off with the fact that when they need something from my mom the call Dan and tell him to tell me to tell my mom. Our parents live 10 minutes away from each other tops. My mom is off work after surgery right now, so she is home all day. You can visit, you can call, you can email. All acceptable options. Hell, we even have a fax machine if that's your thing. Why are you putting Dan and I in the middle? It would be one thing if we were in the middle and they actually informed us of what was going on, but now.
So now we are paying TONS of money for a wedding that I hate and have absolutely no say in. My dad is furious because his parents can't keep to the budget, and are expecting my parents to pay for all this extra stuff, even though we (my parents, Dan and I) have all been very clear that this is a strict budget. My mom set up a meeting for my parents, us and his parents to sit down and talk about this. My dad is super mad that I'm not getting what I want and they are making all of the decisions. The worst part is the fact that it's not like I'm asking for the moon. I just want to be able to choose what we have for dinner and be a little creative with the reception. Originally I just wanted a small wedding in my backyard. They are shelling out thousands of dollars for a wedding I don't want!!!!!! It makes me sick inside. There is so much more that could be done with that money. Dan and I need a car, an apartment, and I have to pay application fees for grad school, plus the actual cost of going to grad school! Why are we spending so much on a totally crappy-ass wedding?
This crap started yesterday and has started again today, with a text from my mom at 9:30 this morning. It's been going on since! It just makes me sick inside to think about all this money being spent on something so awful, and all the yelling and stuff that goes with it. I've already cried once today....
But it feels like it's too late for anything to really change. We are six weeks away and the invitations have been sent out.
I don't even want to go to my own wedding....