What is underneath the word called trust?
Trust is the absolute faith in someone, whether it’s for something or for life it’s self. No one is capable of absolute trust to another person; we might think that there is a person that we can trust with all our deepest secret and weakness. But know this, it is not trust, we seek from them but silence, trust is different, trust is something that we people in the world is not capable of giving to anyone. We seek for someone who can keep our secret and weakness to the world, but it is not trust we give to this person, it’s a keeper.
People always say that they want a person to be trustful to be close to their heart. But what we seek is someone who will tell us everything will be alright and everything we do is right. Humans go to another human if they feel they can feel superior to them one way or another. People never befriend someone who will defy them every step of the way, some might say that they like a person who can stand to their own beliefs, but deep inside, they want that person to bend to their will, they want to be the one that person will follow.
We say we trust our family the most; the reason for this is they are the people who we are comfortable enough to be our self with. They know everything that happens to you since you are a mere child. But is it really true? Does our family really know everything about us? I would say no, there will always be something that we will hide from them, whether we broke one piece of china from our mother’s beloved china set or we steal from our father’s wallet or other things. There will always be something that our own family doesn’t know about our self. I agree that family know almost everything about us, it will either be our mother or our father, maybe even a sibling. But still I say that even to a family member we never give them our complete trust.
Then we go to our friends after family, friends, what are they? They are the people around us when we need comfort a family cannot give. They are people that we share stories and laugh with. They give us their silence, not trust. They are the people who will be behind us in times of trouble. As I already said, they give us their silence not trust, and vice versa. They give us silence support in everything we do, whether they thing that we can do it or not. They give their silence to keep our secret, but we know that there will be a time that they will reveal it to everyone. They give us the push to do things if we don’t have enough guts to go thru, whether it’s from good intention or not. Friends are the easiest to influence our beliefs and virtue, they are the people we based our attitude and reaction on. But even the closest of friends have secret from each other. We can say that there is respect to one another, if friendship is form, but absolute trust, no.
Last is a person life partner, the husband or the wife, the boyfriend or the girlfriend, or the lover. Many say that the foundation of a wonderful relationship is trust, no. The foundation of a wonderful relationship is acceptance, acceptance that there are things that cannot not be said aloud, acceptance in every imperfection the person have, acceptance in everything that happen in the past, and acceptance that not everything is the way that we want it to be. We get married, because of the hope to stay by the person’s side, as long as humanly possible. We married the person we cared and loved the most out of everyone in our life time. But was their really absolute trust between the couple? The answer is no. Their things that we couldn’t say to our partner, whether we lost our job or theirs in another lover, we cannot trust our partner to be able to take this and say what we need to hear. Life time partner is not someone you can say everything to, we should be always careful not to over steps walls that had been build to protect the relationship. We must always to considerate and understanding in order to the relationship to stay. Acceptance, consideration, understanding, and love are what relationship stand for.
Trust is not something that can be given to anyone, it cannot be gain, nor can it be taken. Trust is not something that we people is capable of doing. There is no one in that lived in this world that gave their trust to anyone. Trust is a work that cannot be used by us humans; it is a mere metaphor, to describe someone that understand us and someone that give us comfort.
This is trust from the point of view of an ordinary person, living in this twisted world of ours, called Earth. Many of you might disagree with what I think is trust, but know this, it’s my own opinion and before you think what I wrote is just full of bitterness and none sense. Please do assess yourself first, do think of one person that you trust the most, and think if you ever keep something from that person, whether you thing hiding it is for their own good. If you thought that you might have kept something from that person, then congratulation, you accept the fact that trust is not something you can give and receive easily. But if you say you never kept anything from that person, you are amazing, I for one want to meet you, and talk to you. I want to know a person that give trust to the fullest to a simple human being like us. I do want to know what you think of this.
“We are someone who we thing we are, do not let other dictate who you will be.”