If there is no explanation that you know of, i.e., no event that brought on these feelings, then it is chemical. And I mean that in the most serious sense. I am very self-observant of the way I am feeling, and sometimes I generally have feelings that I cannot explain. Emotions correspond to some brain state, some ordering and activity of chemicals in your brain. If there is some event that triggers your emotion, your reaction to the event involves some rearrangement of those chemicals that bring on the feeling. But sometimes something internal of which you are not at all aware happens, and the result is a rearrangement of those chemicals, and thus, a change in emotion that you cannot link to any external event. There are a number of reasons this can occur, including diet and genetics. However, considering your age, I am willing to bet that it has much more to do with the chemical changes going on inside your body as you are developing into an adult. Hormones, whether we like it or not, have a huge effect on your emotions, it's just a scientific fact. One of the parts of growing up that most of us are never ready for is this bombardment of swirling and changing emotions in a very "what the fuck???" sort of fashion. I remember that, and I remember feeling spells of mopiness. No, you're not depressed--there are much stronger signs for that than just a general mopiness.
I would say that just try to be as self-aware as you can of how you're feeling, and determining whether it's caused by some event or not, and if not, it must be chemical. In that case, just try to keep in mind that your body is going through some amazing changes, you're stuck with it, and try to control yourself mentally as much as possible. (I remember having these bursts of raging anger for almost no reason and feeling completely out of control. It took me some time to learn how to control it.) One thing that worked really well for me was meditation: I started getting curious about witchcraft and paganism, researched it, and there was actually a lot of meditation and such involved. It actually was really good for me in a mental and pscyhological sense.
However, if you think it might be more caused by your lack of a social life, I'm not sure what to recommend in that sense. I suppose I could tell you how truly unsatisfying having a social life actually turns out to be. I had one, a few times, and every time, after a few months, I just couldn't take it anymore, and I always just stop socializing. Most people just aren't the kind of people I want to hang out with. But I used to go (goth) clubbing, a lot, almost every weekend, for long spurts of time. Now, in some sense, I can't bring myself to go because I just can't really interact with the people very much. Of course, there is a sharp divide between myself and most people: I'm an academic.
Yeah, I'm pretty sure that I'm just being angsty like all teens are. And about the friendship thing, I think I'm just really picky about who I hang out with, maybe a little too picky, and because of that I don't interact with other people as much as I'd like to.
Trust me, this is precisely the way that I am, and I have hardly any friends at all. In fact, it might be appropriate to say that I really have no friends at all, except for my boyfriend, since I really don't hang out with anyone else, and there are quite literally no other people that I would ever go to when, say, I have some problem bothering me, or whatever. There are some people that I hang out with, people I know from the philosophy department I am a part of, but I would hardly consider them real friends, despite that they are all great people. In essence, I am so competely socially inept and terrible at making friends. There is some sort of strange gap between myself and almost all other people, a gap that I am unable to analyze, to understand it, in order to try to close it.
I would say that just try to be as self-aware as you can of how you're feeling, and determining whether it's caused by some event or not, and if not, it must be chemical. In that case, just try to keep in mind that your body is going through some amazing changes, you're stuck with it, and try to control yourself mentally as much as possible. (I remember having these bursts of raging anger for almost no reason and feeling completely out of control. It took me some time to learn how to control it.) One thing that worked really well for me was meditation: I started getting curious about witchcraft and paganism, researched it, and there was actually a lot of meditation and such involved. It actually was really good for me in a mental and pscyhological sense.
However, if you think it might be more caused by your lack of a social life, I'm not sure what to recommend in that sense. I suppose I could tell you how truly unsatisfying having a social life actually turns out to be. I had one, a few times, and every time, after a few months, I just couldn't take it anymore, and I always just stop socializing. Most people just aren't the kind of people I want to hang out with. But I used to go (goth) clubbing, a lot, almost every weekend, for long spurts of time. Now, in some sense, I can't bring myself to go because I just can't really interact with the people very much. Of course, there is a sharp divide between myself and most people: I'm an academic.
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