eumelia has a very eloquent post up about how LGBT lives are not by default for the consumption of slash fans:
What The Eff? No, Seriously, What?!.
In my opinion, this is a must read for all slash fans and especially slash writers, because I do see the sort of shit happening around fandom from time to time, too often, and this is a good reminder about the delicate and controversial position that slash occupies in the larger society and culture we operate in. Go read.