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Things with my dad are Not Good. This past Sunday when I saw him, we wound up at Sizzler because he wanted a baked potato. He remembered having one while at a hospital but didn't, of course, remember that he was IN the hospital at the time. He has no recollection whatsoever of his month long convelescing at Kaiser. He had forgotten key pieces of my Mom's jewelery wardrobe. Pieces she's worn every day for decades. He asked me if I had heard from the test administering doctor. I have, in fact, not heard from that particular doctor. My Dad wants an explanation as to what is wrong with him. As I suspected, when he first demanded this test, he doesn't believe the results. He still thinks we are punishing and imprisoning him. He's threatened to sue to force my Mom to care for him at home. Honestly, if it came to that, she would simply disappear, never to be heard from again. He thinks she is dancing a happy jig with him finally put away and is able to do as she pleases and is flashing all her jewelery. This last bit really pissed her off and she doesn't plan on returning to visit him until his attitude changes. He announced to me that he is no longer going to talk to my Mom in front of me because I can't keep my mouth shut. Insolent, I am.
Today talking to her, she admitted that she is saddened by his complete lack of affection towards towards me. I said it's fine, it's okay. She demurred, of course. And, no, it's not okay. It hurts sometimes. Truthfully, I have scads of lovely memories of my Dad loving me when I was kid. He can't show me love now and I'm working towards accepting that as him being him. Trust me, it's hard.
She's going to give me the papers again to get him to sign so that she has power of attorney over him, medically speaking. If he doesn't, she will be completely unable to make any appointments for him whatsoever. It's in his best interest to sign them. It's going to be an ugly fight getting his signature, let me tell you.
Today talking to her, she admitted that she is saddened by his complete lack of affection towards towards me. I said it's fine, it's okay. She demurred, of course. And, no, it's not okay. It hurts sometimes. Truthfully, I have scads of lovely memories of my Dad loving me when I was kid. He can't show me love now and I'm working towards accepting that as him being him. Trust me, it's hard.
She's going to give me the papers again to get him to sign so that she has power of attorney over him, medically speaking. If he doesn't, she will be completely unable to make any appointments for him whatsoever. It's in his best interest to sign them. It's going to be an ugly fight getting his signature, let me tell you.