Partners I choose, or who I let choose me must be attractive. Sexually attractive. That being said, there's a lot I put into appearance, but an unattractive mind will kill even the hottest exterior. Great minds with unappealing bodies don't work for me. Got to be visual/physical.
I tend to get butterflies plenty, so the likelihood of having sex with people who generate butterflies isn't so far fetched for me.
Things that cause me to stop being attracted to someone are attitude, and physical changes that are no longer sexually attractive. In regards to the question of wanting more or moving on, it varies. I typically want more, but can become uninterested in a sexually attractive partner who might not live up to my expectations, although I work hard to not judge on first impression. Everyone has good/bad days, and once is not enough.
Intoxication level is high. I enjoy the effort and thought and learning that is required for good sex. To find all of the specific, or effective things on a personal level that make a woman come hard and reliably. I got over a lot of the selfish sex when I was younger.
I'm going to have to think about the quirks. Or be prompted for more specifics or direction.
can become uninterested in a sexually attractive partner who might not live up to my expectations, i think judging is such sabatoge on one hand..seemingly propelled by high insecurity. on the other hand its a warning signal to trust your instincts. i have a hard time deciphering which is which.
Well, I can see your point, but let me clarify mine.
Do you watch movies that you like, or always go for mediocre or movies you don't like?
If you like cabbage, but hate broccoli, do you routinely choose broccoli for its lesser appeal?
You see the metaphors. After having sex with someone, would you keep going back to the dead fish or the uptight, (assuming you don't have a preference for uptight dead fish...) or do you seek out the reactions and actions that bring you pleasure or preference?
To me it's a matter of doing what feels good. Selfish? Yup. Who's not? (and if not, why do they relish being a doormat - sexually or otherwise?)
My point is that short of a partner who may be inexperienced, or willing to learn, life is too short to keep having bad sex on purpose.
Or something.
I agree - the judge vs. the instinct is a fine line. All the more reason I like to experience a partner more than once (short of something horrid on the first time, which is hard to imagine) to ensure that a first impression wasn't false.
im sorry- i totally thought you meant judging your partner in terms of non-sexual things. if a person is a bad lover, then yes, of course thats a turn off and you likely will stop being attracted to them.
I tend to get butterflies plenty, so the likelihood of having sex with people who generate butterflies isn't so far fetched for me.
Things that cause me to stop being attracted to someone are attitude, and physical changes that are no longer sexually attractive. In regards to the question of wanting more or moving on, it varies. I typically want more, but can become uninterested in a sexually attractive partner who might not live up to my expectations, although I work hard to not judge on first impression. Everyone has good/bad days, and once is not enough.
Intoxication level is high. I enjoy the effort and thought and learning that is required for good sex. To find all of the specific, or effective things on a personal level that make a woman come hard and reliably. I got over a lot of the selfish sex when I was younger.
I'm going to have to think about the quirks. Or be prompted for more specifics or direction.
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i think judging is such sabatoge on one hand..seemingly propelled by high insecurity. on the other hand its a warning signal to trust your instincts. i have a hard time deciphering which is which.
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Do you watch movies that you like, or always go for mediocre or movies you don't like?
If you like cabbage, but hate broccoli, do you routinely choose broccoli for its lesser appeal?
You see the metaphors. After having sex with someone, would you keep going back to the dead fish or the uptight, (assuming you don't have a preference for uptight dead fish...) or do you seek out the reactions and actions that bring you pleasure or preference?
To me it's a matter of doing what feels good. Selfish? Yup. Who's not? (and if not, why do they relish being a doormat - sexually or otherwise?)
My point is that short of a partner who may be inexperienced, or willing to learn, life is too short to keep having bad sex on purpose.
Or something.
I agree - the judge vs. the instinct is a fine line. All the more reason I like to experience a partner more than once (short of something horrid on the first time, which is hard to imagine) to ensure that a first impression wasn't false.
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