I often wonder the same thing. I can tell you a couple of things I tried that weren't that helpful: 1) The Landmark Forum (too hard to explain, but kind of like a psychological checkup and self-assessment weekend); 2) Career Coaching (although that may be a function of the coach). The latter interviewed a few friends and mostly told me stuff I already knew (e.g., that I was very fair, but I need to consider other people's feelings more often). But you could try one that would meet with you in person more often and give you feedback on your body language and mannerisms. If you find one that works, let me know. They charge a lot per hour, but more is not necessarily better.
The Dale Carnegie Institute offers classes that supposedly teach you to be genuinely interested in others. However, they're $1,200, and after sitting in on 2/8, I didn't think it was worth it. You can borrow the books of the course from a library for free, though (The Guide to Winning Friends and Influencing People).
Asking questions is good, as long as they're nonthreatening, because people like to talk about themselves. Smile and look people in the eye (but not long enough to stare). Maybe this sounds obvious but it can be easier said than done for many.
The Dale Carnegie Institute offers classes that supposedly teach you to be genuinely interested in others. However, they're $1,200, and after sitting in on 2/8, I didn't think it was worth it. You can borrow the books of the course from a library for free, though (The Guide to Winning Friends and Influencing People).
Asking questions is good, as long as they're nonthreatening, because people like to talk about themselves. Smile and look people in the eye (but not long enough to stare). Maybe this sounds obvious but it can be easier said than done for many.
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