I consider myself a feminist and gender equalist. Actually I consider that sentence redundant, because to me feminism IS about making the genders equal. Period. It's the female side of that, for sure, so it concentrates on how to better the lives of females. But anyone who thinks that giving females a better life somehow takes away from men...needs a serious logic check. Improving people's lives is not a zero-sum game. And looking HONESTLY at the world, on the whole, which gender needs more serious attention when it comes to helping improve their lives? That would be the females.
On the other hand, of course, I've run across feminists who think that they are somehow justified in thinking that all women should be working, or all women should be businesswomen, that to be a housewife is really bad or that it's degrading or something. Those people piss me off almost as much as the other kind, because they're in favor of taking away a woman's right to choose just as much! If a woman wants to stay at home and clean and cook and watch kids and read and maybe write or paint or do whatever she wants...that's totally up to her. Women have been "housewives" for millennia, and humanity still exists, so you'd think it wouldn't kill us to allow for the possibility of women who actually like it. *twitch*
I myself...am not exactly a housewife, hehe. But y'know. XD Oh! And all that stuff applies to house-husbands too...I guess they're called stay-at-home-dads? I saw a segment on 60 Minutes or something about them, and it was so cuuuuute. These dads staying at home with their (ridiculously) clean kitchens and watching kids and squeeee. <3333
Actually I consider that sentence redundant, because to me feminism IS about making the genders equal.
Exactly. Feminism focuses on women, because women are the ones who are oppressed. Our patriarchal culture hurts men as well, but men earn more, are far less likely to be raped (1 in 6 women vs 1 in 33 men), are less likely to be abused by a romantic partner, and all around deal with less shit. I'm not going to change my language just to make those in power feel safer.
My feminism is all about choice. Being a stay-at-home-mom is just as worthy a choice as being a CEO. But, for a choice to be real, there have to be options. Considering the divorce and domestic violence rates, it's dangerous for a woman to be dependent on a man. My mother is especially adamant about this, because she was dependent on my dad, then had to struggle to go back to school and get a job when they got divorced. So, a woman should have the option of being a housewife, but she should also have the option of being something else if she has to be.
On the other hand, of course, I've run across feminists who think that they are somehow justified in thinking that all women should be working, or all women should be businesswomen, that to be a housewife is really bad or that it's degrading or something. Those people piss me off almost as much as the other kind, because they're in favor of taking away a woman's right to choose just as much! If a woman wants to stay at home and clean and cook and watch kids and read and maybe write or paint or do whatever she wants...that's totally up to her. Women have been "housewives" for millennia, and humanity still exists, so you'd think it wouldn't kill us to allow for the possibility of women who actually like it. *twitch*
I myself...am not exactly a housewife, hehe. But y'know. XD Oh! And all that stuff applies to house-husbands too...I guess they're called stay-at-home-dads? I saw a segment on 60 Minutes or something about them, and it was so cuuuuute. These dads staying at home with their (ridiculously) clean kitchens and watching kids and squeeee. <3333
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Exactly. Feminism focuses on women, because women are the ones who are oppressed. Our patriarchal culture hurts men as well, but men earn more, are far less likely to be raped (1 in 6 women vs 1 in 33 men), are less likely to be abused by a romantic partner, and all around deal with less shit. I'm not going to change my language just to make those in power feel safer.
My feminism is all about choice. Being a stay-at-home-mom is just as worthy a choice as being a CEO. But, for a choice to be real, there have to be options. Considering the divorce and domestic violence rates, it's dangerous for a woman to be dependent on a man. My mother is especially adamant about this, because she was dependent on my dad, then had to struggle to go back to school and get a job when they got divorced. So, a woman should have the option of being a housewife, but she should also have the option of being something else if she has to be.
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