She was so worried about my reaction that she had to drink beforehand
I talked to Elizabeth for an hour yesterday. Today she apologized for saying "ain't" and I'm just sitting here wondering why she thinks, after knowing me almost two decades, that I would care.
I have definitely gotten more laid back and less judgy over the years. How has she missed that? It kind of broke my heart. Was she seriously sitting there ( Read more... )
It sounds like she might be a bit insecure, as well as thinking you're a language perfectionist somehow. Honestly, you'd think any idosynracies or hang ups we had around language usage would all be well behind us by the time we hit 40. I think I remember you telling me Elizabeth was around our age.
Colton does the same thing to me - he fat fingers a lot of stuff when he texts, so he's constantly misspelling or using autocorrect/predictive text, but I don't even care. I'm just happy he's talking to me. He apologizes for it a lot though, or says stuff like "ignore my typing". I have to constantly tell him that it's fine, my brain doesn't even register the misspellings most of the time, and I understand what he's trying to say. I'm such a perfectionist when I type though, most of the time, that I guess it makes him feel self-conscious.
Maybe she's just trying to live up to an invisible standard that she set for herself, but projecting that onto you is wrong. I'm sorry that she didn't take your feelings into account, and if she really thinks you're that pedantic, well... idk. One thing I've learned from you over the years though is that true friends love you no matter what. *hugs*
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Elizabeth is a little under ten years older than me, actually -- she's 51! I know I was a snot-nosed pedant back in the day, but over the years, I realized I'd rather be friendly than douchey, and I stopped pointing out spelling and grammar errors unless someone was being directly hostile towards me. Elizabeth offers editing services too and prides herself on being a great writer. She told me a few years back that doesn't really even use contractions in her everyday speech, which honestly blows my mind. I think she's chilled out on that a little. Still, I met her when we both worked at Pacific High School in 2005. She's seen me through so much, and I've worked hard to show her that I love her unconditionally (though I admit, I had to question that for a minute last year when she asked me to get Viagra in Mexico so she could drug her boyfriend and try to get him to sleep with her more...which disturbed me way too much).
She's told me that she's found me intimidating, and I know it's because I used to be an over-critical jerk in the past (but not of her). I've worked so hard to be more tolerant and accepting, but she seems to think I haven't changed at all, and that makes me really sad!
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