Relationships with non-vegans... I'm so upset :(
Hey guys. I had an argument today and another one yesterday with my vegetarian boyfriend where he turned out to be a MUCH bigger speciesist than I thought he was. He said that what I do is much worse than participating in the animal industry; namely, that my having intense negative emotions (like being pissed off) that he can feel, looking at him
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Yeah, the hardest part of being vegan is definitely facing other people's lack of caring. That is good advice, thank you! ...Buuut I had another talk with him with more crying, and it turned out that he still just hasn't made the connection. He said it feels abstract, like he's just buying some milk. But he was open to cutting stuff down (even thought about it on his own in the store, although didn't do it). So I'm not going to forget about it; I had the crazy idea of paying him to look at photos and watch documentaries, which he agreed to. Unconventional but who cares... :)
Gary Yurofsky is an idiot. Denying sex is based on the stupid, archaic notion that sex isn't something women want, it's just something they give to men as a kind of favour or in exchange for other things, like dinner or shelter. It's a toxic notion. Not to mention that sex shouldn't be a blackmail tool. That's a terrible thing to do in a relationship. Anyway I'm much more interested in sex than he is, and denying him sex would deny me sex as well! And breaking up would only hurt us both and get him nowhere closer to veganism. I don't know who this Gary Yurofsky is, but clearly he's an idiot with some very old-fashioned, Christian notions about gender. I hope he isn't some sort of known messenger of the vegan cause.
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