И снова на манеже цадики местного разлива
Diego Yaakov (44/M) says:
Quite the opposite, Avigayil. The problem begins with single women who don't want to marry a somewhat older man (let's say, too many women of our generation would reject a match who is 15-25 years older). Also, it's women who mostly lie on their actual age (especially if they are old women, I mean 40-years-old, or older). The consequence is, however, that matchmakers and men who want to do a favor to single women have the custom of decreasing the actual age of single men. Let's say that a 33-years-old woman tell people she is 29, and that she wants a man up to 38. A man who is 44 would be great for her, and would solve at least her major problems in life. But societal pressure, real or imagined, would make her feel disgusted to marry a man that "old". By lying her about his own age, a brave, considerate and truthful 44-years-old man might save her, with the help of a merciful matchmaker.
Комментарии излишни, я думаю :)
А вот он же, только в другой ветке:
we cohanim are strange and different, you cannot speak out in a plea for us to change since we cannot and should not change ourselves. Jewish Priesthood is not a psychiatric disorder to be treated. It's at the stage of shidduch that a single woman should know if she is fit to a cohen, or not (as far as I understand it. Of course, I may be wrong). So that the question arises whether guidance to single girls who never married may be provided to prevent the impossible situation in which they marry a cohen in spite of incurable unsuitability?
[...]
After marriage, a cohen's spouse should be well aware she is not going to make her husband be like other men. Thus any woman who had a previous successful relationship with a boyfriend, or was married to a non-cohen might find it difficult to adjust to a cohen but should understand she should not try and change him. I think a normal girl who never married and never had a boyfriend, if she has a good, rich cultural background, after being provided a well-planned preparation for marriage, should fit most cohanim. Girls who suffer from a psychiatric disorder may also build a happy marital relationship with a cohen, depending on the circumstances.
Чорд, бедные когены. С такой антирекламой им остается лишь завернуться в простыню и ползти на кладбище
Quite the opposite, Avigayil. The problem begins with single women who don't want to marry a somewhat older man (let's say, too many women of our generation would reject a match who is 15-25 years older). Also, it's women who mostly lie on their actual age (especially if they are old women, I mean 40-years-old, or older). The consequence is, however, that matchmakers and men who want to do a favor to single women have the custom of decreasing the actual age of single men. Let's say that a 33-years-old woman tell people she is 29, and that she wants a man up to 38. A man who is 44 would be great for her, and would solve at least her major problems in life. But societal pressure, real or imagined, would make her feel disgusted to marry a man that "old". By lying her about his own age, a brave, considerate and truthful 44-years-old man might save her, with the help of a merciful matchmaker.
Комментарии излишни, я думаю :)
А вот он же, только в другой ветке:
we cohanim are strange and different, you cannot speak out in a plea for us to change since we cannot and should not change ourselves. Jewish Priesthood is not a psychiatric disorder to be treated. It's at the stage of shidduch that a single woman should know if she is fit to a cohen, or not (as far as I understand it. Of course, I may be wrong). So that the question arises whether guidance to single girls who never married may be provided to prevent the impossible situation in which they marry a cohen in spite of incurable unsuitability?
[...]
After marriage, a cohen's spouse should be well aware she is not going to make her husband be like other men. Thus any woman who had a previous successful relationship with a boyfriend, or was married to a non-cohen might find it difficult to adjust to a cohen but should understand she should not try and change him. I think a normal girl who never married and never had a boyfriend, if she has a good, rich cultural background, after being provided a well-planned preparation for marriage, should fit most cohanim. Girls who suffer from a psychiatric disorder may also build a happy marital relationship with a cohen, depending on the circumstances.
Чорд, бедные когены. С такой антирекламой им остается лишь завернуться в простыню и ползти на кладбище