on the recent kerfuffle and the other kerfuffle
When someone complains about feeling marginalized or excluded in fandom, or says that something makes them uncomfortable, the appropriate response is never "suck it up." It may be "I understand, but there's really nothing I can do," or, "I understand, but things are as they are for the following reasons," but it is never going to be "Suck it up." Seriously. I realize that sometimes this is a difficult thing to remember or to put into practice, but that does not make it less true. So I would just like a to take a moment to praise the community and public relations committees of the Organization for Transformative Works, for displaying incredible grace and mindfulness. They have set a model for public behavior I hope to follow in my own life.