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[vanyd]

So... i went on a date. My date was half an hour late (he says he got lost), we went to Chili's (I refused to make him pay for cheesecake factory or anywhere like that), and then we walked around the mall for 30 min or so.... He wanted to see a movie afterwards but I made up some weird B.S. and left (awkwardly). Sigh

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[ramgor]

Ok.

First of all, you need to BREATHE.
The most important thing about dating is to figure out what you DON'T like in guys, and to do that, you need to give them a chance. Loosen up a little bit, and if you get uncomfortable, be honest about it. You couldn't possibly know if you like him yet, but a better question is, is he cute? Did he make you laugh? Aside from being late, did he do anything that really turns you off? If the answer are yes, yes and no, give him a second chance. You NEVER know- and really, what the worst that could happen?

I should write a book.

[vanyd]

He's cute. Like, literally "cute." If you had asked me what he looked like after the initial time we met, I wouldn't have been able to tell you. It wasn't until our actual date that I took time to look at his face, hahaha... Um, he makes me laugh-ish. His biggest downfall is that he isn't charismatic or very animated. That kinda bothers me :/ He hasn't done anything to really turn me off. He's really sweet, he's a gentleman, he compliments me a lot. I think he's the one who needs to loosen up, maybe. I'm getting boooored....

Please write a book and then autograph a copy for me.

P.S. We went on a second date in which he met my friends. They like him.

[ramgor]

Hmmm- well if he tried to kiss you like it says down there....BIG nono. So I'm gonna go with no. But there's a deeper reson you don't like dating. think about thatttttt one for a minute ;)

I say this only cause I hate dating. :)

[vanyd]

I hate dating as well. hate hate hate it... I just came back from my 4th (...5th...?) date with him. He's loosened up. I'm still not kissing him, tho!!! Lol

[ramgor]

Woah- what girl in their right mind wants to hear that crap on a first....second...even third date? TOOOO much. unless it's obviously immediate love, but that's so rare. Idk, not buyin' it. I think after 5 dates you'd know if you were totally into him, and if you're not, just give it to him straight, you can do it, I have faith in you.

....I am such a bitch. Poor boys.

[vanyd]

Lol! No, you're practical and smart and iloveyou! I've already told myself that I'm going to have "The Talk" with him tomorrow. I'm hoping to gently put him in the friend zone by mentioning how far we live from each other (over an hour with traffic. Inconvenient!) and how I don't want to string him along, but it takes me a while before I develop feelings for a guy so it's better to be friends. To cap it all off, I plan to say "How about we hang out whenever we're in the same neighborhood and if something happens, then cool. But right now, I don't know you that well and I don't want to force anything."

P.S. Thru this process I have gotten to realize my taste in men better: One of my main points is that I need the guy to be smarter than me. If I feel like I have to tone down my vocabulary to talk to you, we have an issue. Not that I have a horribly advanced vocab, but still. I don't want to be afraid of saying anything.

[ramgor]

Hahaha. Okay, if you say so. That all sounds good. I think he should sppreciate the fact that you gave him a chance, didn't lead him on and are being honest. I completely agree- for me, men need to be AS smart as me. at LEAST. haha. i mean come on ya'll.

PS this kid on a commercial for easter chocolate just said "And Gammy likes Jesus...so...she gave me a chocolate cross."
It was adorable.