Stupid, Stupid boys and the stupid girls who follow them...
So, a friend of mine, who shall remain nameless, is driving me up the wall!!!! What kills me is that she's with a douche AND she knows it!!! But she's in love...? GAH!!!!
Now he's been saying stupid shit to her (for instance, he regrets never having a one-night stand with her best friend. In his defense, my friend was more or less digging for answers she knew would hurt her), and she's getting really pissed. However, my question is: does she have a right to be angry with him when they're in an open relationship (which I don't believe in)?
First of all, an open relationship isn't a relationship if you ask me! What kind of relationship allows both sides to sleep with whom ever they want when the other person is not in the area? Personally, I wouldn't want my boyfriend sleeping with other people because "he's just scratching an itch." Not to mention, she even told him she'd prefer he had one night stands instead of a fuck buddy, as if that's any better! I mean, do you seriously want a man whose SEX DRIVE is more important than YOU? And her defense is that she's allowed to sleep with other people too, but does that count if she doesn't want to have sex with anybody else but HIM! So, basically, while she sits at home, perfectly faithful to him out of choice, he's allowed to sleep with other people until she flies back (this is a long distance relationship). Of course, because I'm so tired of this stupid shit, I told her today that she's being an idiot and that he has no respect for her. If he respected her, and the love she has for him, he wouldn't be doing this to her. Once, I even straight up told her that she was basically her glorified fuck buddy/girl friend of convenience. I thought maybe if I put it bluntly she'd see it. It kinda hurt her feelings, which I'm sad about. I don't want to hurt her, but it's all I can do not to shake her and yell "DON'T YOU SEE IT?!?! DON'T YOU SEE HE DOESN'T DESERVE YOU?!?!" Then, to make matters worse, her biggest concern is if he thinks she wasn't worth his time/effort. And again, it kills me because she knoooooows that she's being an idiot and that it's HIM who's not worth HER. However, she's fine with keeping their stilted relationship because, and I quote, she prefers "having something instead of nothing."
BULLSHIT, BULLSHIT, BULLSHIT!!!!
Now he's been saying stupid shit to her (for instance, he regrets never having a one-night stand with her best friend. In his defense, my friend was more or less digging for answers she knew would hurt her), and she's getting really pissed. However, my question is: does she have a right to be angry with him when they're in an open relationship (which I don't believe in)?
First of all, an open relationship isn't a relationship if you ask me! What kind of relationship allows both sides to sleep with whom ever they want when the other person is not in the area? Personally, I wouldn't want my boyfriend sleeping with other people because "he's just scratching an itch." Not to mention, she even told him she'd prefer he had one night stands instead of a fuck buddy, as if that's any better! I mean, do you seriously want a man whose SEX DRIVE is more important than YOU? And her defense is that she's allowed to sleep with other people too, but does that count if she doesn't want to have sex with anybody else but HIM! So, basically, while she sits at home, perfectly faithful to him out of choice, he's allowed to sleep with other people until she flies back (this is a long distance relationship). Of course, because I'm so tired of this stupid shit, I told her today that she's being an idiot and that he has no respect for her. If he respected her, and the love she has for him, he wouldn't be doing this to her. Once, I even straight up told her that she was basically her glorified fuck buddy/girl friend of convenience. I thought maybe if I put it bluntly she'd see it. It kinda hurt her feelings, which I'm sad about. I don't want to hurt her, but it's all I can do not to shake her and yell "DON'T YOU SEE IT?!?! DON'T YOU SEE HE DOESN'T DESERVE YOU?!?!" Then, to make matters worse, her biggest concern is if he thinks she wasn't worth his time/effort. And again, it kills me because she knoooooows that she's being an idiot and that it's HIM who's not worth HER. However, she's fine with keeping their stilted relationship because, and I quote, she prefers "having something instead of nothing."
BULLSHIT, BULLSHIT, BULLSHIT!!!!