I hasten to reassure you that you aren't the only gal out there who finds Orlando Bloom unattractive, irrespective of sexual orientation - I think he looks like an alien, and not on par with any kind of Torchwood femme-fatale alien, either!
It's so, so shitty that people you care about engage in this type of infuriating behavior that actively hurts and harms you; even shittier to know that their behavior stems from fear. When you get to the next step in your formal education, I think you'll find your social horizons less closed with respect to everything you're describing here. Heterosexism and homophobia never seem to really recede from view, no matter where you go, but in college there are more opportunities to find true acceptance and people who don't prioritize hetero privilege over basic consideration for your feelings and dignity as a person.
I hesitate to offer advice about the situation with your friend, but I can say this: there's no rush. It sounds like you've been handling the awkwardness as gracefully as possible, and whether or not you later find yourself reciprocating, you shouldn't have to feel boxed into romantic choices by your sexuality or your friendship.
It's so, so shitty that people you care about engage in this type of infuriating behavior that actively hurts and harms you; even shittier to know that their behavior stems from fear. When you get to the next step in your formal education, I think you'll find your social horizons less closed with respect to everything you're describing here. Heterosexism and homophobia never seem to really recede from view, no matter where you go, but in college there are more opportunities to find true acceptance and people who don't prioritize hetero privilege over basic consideration for your feelings and dignity as a person.
I hesitate to offer advice about the situation with your friend, but I can say this: there's no rush. It sounds like you've been handling the awkwardness as gracefully as possible, and whether or not you later find yourself reciprocating, you shouldn't have to feel boxed into romantic choices by your sexuality or your friendship.
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