Sid vs. Dr. Hall: I can't Decide
I think that, if, when he first introduced himself to us last semester in social psych, I had heard him say that he prefers to be called Sid, then I would have started out that way from the beginning, and this wouldn't be an issue. But, I didn't. And so, out of respect for him, I called him Dr. Hall.
Then I learned, in the middle of last semester, that he prefers to go by Sid even with students.
I would be so honored if I could call Dr. Hall by his first name. But it's difficult for me. He's my professor, my teacher, my advisor (both research and academic), my mentor, my superior. I respect him and feel that he deserves to be called by his last name and prefix.
BUT--
He prefers to be called by his first name. AND, I would be so honored to call him by his first name.
So why can't I? I can't get past this invisible barrier that exists between us which places him superior to me. I keep telling myself that once I graduate, we'll be colleagues (almost; I won't have an MA or a Ph.D. yet). And I keep telling myself that WE ARE COAUTHORS on my study. Coauthors. That puts us on the same level. But, in fact, I am going to be the FIRST author, and him a very low second (accd. to him). I already know volumes more about my topic than he does; we both have acknowledged that. That kind of, actually, puts me in a superior position to him. And so, seeing how he likes to go by Sid, it makes complete sense, and even ethicality, for me to call him by his first name.
Now that I've worked this out on paper--er, um; with a keyboard--I imagine it will be easier for me to call him Sid instead of Dr. Hall.
I think I need some practice. Now that I've worked out the ethicality of doing it, I don't want to sound awkward when I do it in person. I don't want to trip on it, y'know? 'Cause I definitely will if I don't practice.
It just feels so funny on my tongue, though. "Sid." *shivers* it's kinda weird. "Dr. Hall" is so much more formal and appropriate. Y'know? I mean, regardless of the ethicality of calling him by his first name, it still feels so weird. Maybe it's because I'm already accustomed to "Dr. Hall" that "Sid" just feels so weird.
You know, like pronouncing the word "research" as REE-surtch for so many years and then trying to switch over to reh-SURTCH. I trip over that word every single fucking time I read it. I can't decide if I want to switch or not. Same with data. Is it "DAY-tuh" or "DAH-tuh"? I think I'm switching over, but I can't tell...I kind of go back and forth. Like, I'm used to saying them both the former way, but I want to switch over to saying them both the latter way--the reason being that Dr. Hall/Sid says them both the latter way; I started picking it up from him naturally, but then I started recognize when I do it. And now I'm just really fascinated and I'm interested in knowing when it's going to make the change for good--watching me struggle with it is kind of like watching sports. It's fun, frustrating, and infuriating at times (to be alliterative).
*sigh* Yeah, so I don't know what to do.
Ideas?
Then I learned, in the middle of last semester, that he prefers to go by Sid even with students.
I would be so honored if I could call Dr. Hall by his first name. But it's difficult for me. He's my professor, my teacher, my advisor (both research and academic), my mentor, my superior. I respect him and feel that he deserves to be called by his last name and prefix.
BUT--
He prefers to be called by his first name. AND, I would be so honored to call him by his first name.
So why can't I? I can't get past this invisible barrier that exists between us which places him superior to me. I keep telling myself that once I graduate, we'll be colleagues (almost; I won't have an MA or a Ph.D. yet). And I keep telling myself that WE ARE COAUTHORS on my study. Coauthors. That puts us on the same level. But, in fact, I am going to be the FIRST author, and him a very low second (accd. to him). I already know volumes more about my topic than he does; we both have acknowledged that. That kind of, actually, puts me in a superior position to him. And so, seeing how he likes to go by Sid, it makes complete sense, and even ethicality, for me to call him by his first name.
Now that I've worked this out on paper--er, um; with a keyboard--I imagine it will be easier for me to call him Sid instead of Dr. Hall.
I think I need some practice. Now that I've worked out the ethicality of doing it, I don't want to sound awkward when I do it in person. I don't want to trip on it, y'know? 'Cause I definitely will if I don't practice.
It just feels so funny on my tongue, though. "Sid." *shivers* it's kinda weird. "Dr. Hall" is so much more formal and appropriate. Y'know? I mean, regardless of the ethicality of calling him by his first name, it still feels so weird. Maybe it's because I'm already accustomed to "Dr. Hall" that "Sid" just feels so weird.
You know, like pronouncing the word "research" as REE-surtch for so many years and then trying to switch over to reh-SURTCH. I trip over that word every single fucking time I read it. I can't decide if I want to switch or not. Same with data. Is it "DAY-tuh" or "DAH-tuh"? I think I'm switching over, but I can't tell...I kind of go back and forth. Like, I'm used to saying them both the former way, but I want to switch over to saying them both the latter way--the reason being that Dr. Hall/Sid says them both the latter way; I started picking it up from him naturally, but then I started recognize when I do it. And now I'm just really fascinated and I'm interested in knowing when it's going to make the change for good--watching me struggle with it is kind of like watching sports. It's fun, frustrating, and infuriating at times (to be alliterative).
*sigh* Yeah, so I don't know what to do.
Ideas?