Copycat
Because I need a work break, I thought I'd copy the darling audiobiblio and answer one of her community's questions "asking why we wanted kids, what we would be doing if we didn't have them, and what we would change about our experience." Why? Because I am at a point right now where I am seriously questioning myself as a parent (not necessarily a bad thing...looking at the whole picture) and what kind of parent I want to be. But, that's a whole separate post that has been in draft form for a couple weeks now.
Why we wanted kids?
First let me say that both of my children were unplanned, so I didn't have much of a choice. Though that could be countered with the "you chose to have sex, so you chose to take that risk" argument. Either way, let's just keep it at "unplanned."
Throughout my teenage years and twenties, I was always extremely wishy-washy on the whole breeding thing. On one hand, I thought having the ability to create another human being and mold them into a lovely person was quite possibly the coolest thing ever. The other half of me didn't want to deal with, and was scared of, the responsibility and "tied down" feeling. Though my wanting of children wavered constantly, I was fairly confident that it would happen eventually.
My husband tells me that he has known he always wanted children. He likes kids a lot and loved the idea of being able to shape and mold them into good people who can "carry on."
What would we be doing if we didn't have them?
Hell if I know. I constantly imagine life without them and since that is obvious dreamland, they tend to be very fantasy oriented. Something along the lines of being a traveling journalist.
(Goddamnit! I just wrote a bunch of stuff to finish this up and now its gone. Insert a whole lotta bad words here).
I honestly believe that Cody and I would still be together. We are a very good fit and I love the boy. :)
What would be change about our experience?
Though I doubt I'd actually change anything (I'm a no regrets kind of person), it would have been nice to have more couple time with Cody before having kids. We conceived about two weeks after starting to date, so our "honeymoon" phase was over pretty quickly.
Why we wanted kids?
First let me say that both of my children were unplanned, so I didn't have much of a choice. Though that could be countered with the "you chose to have sex, so you chose to take that risk" argument. Either way, let's just keep it at "unplanned."
Throughout my teenage years and twenties, I was always extremely wishy-washy on the whole breeding thing. On one hand, I thought having the ability to create another human being and mold them into a lovely person was quite possibly the coolest thing ever. The other half of me didn't want to deal with, and was scared of, the responsibility and "tied down" feeling. Though my wanting of children wavered constantly, I was fairly confident that it would happen eventually.
My husband tells me that he has known he always wanted children. He likes kids a lot and loved the idea of being able to shape and mold them into good people who can "carry on."
What would we be doing if we didn't have them?
Hell if I know. I constantly imagine life without them and since that is obvious dreamland, they tend to be very fantasy oriented. Something along the lines of being a traveling journalist.
(Goddamnit! I just wrote a bunch of stuff to finish this up and now its gone. Insert a whole lotta bad words here).
I honestly believe that Cody and I would still be together. We are a very good fit and I love the boy. :)
What would be change about our experience?
Though I doubt I'd actually change anything (I'm a no regrets kind of person), it would have been nice to have more couple time with Cody before having kids. We conceived about two weeks after starting to date, so our "honeymoon" phase was over pretty quickly.