And so it goes
So, after being yelled at by SuperShaff for not posting often enough, I have decided to write a small post. I will reassure everyone, that I do visit LJ everyday. Generally in the morning when I am eating Frosted Flakes and listening to podcasts. I just don't usually have the time to sit and write a post. Like right now, I should be writing a
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I am writing to tell you that Anna had an affair with my husband Tim while I was staying with her in Dublin. She encouraged everything. I was asleep in the same room when it happened.
Tim confessed this to me six weeks ago.
Anna responded with an apology only after I sent her a very nasty letter.
I have had to go to the emergency room. I have seen a doctor for medication and recently had to double my prescription. Most nights when I try to go to sleep I feel like I am being raped. My hair is falling out. Tim and I were seeing the Pastor who wedded us as a counselor, but he has said to go on a two month period of no contact because everything that happens is poisonous. We are each seeing a personal counselor and I am seriously considering divorce.
In addition to the apology Anna has said, “I will get over it soon,” and “Seeing as how the two of you are so young, I think it would be good for you to go to counseling,” as though she is in any position to give advice. She was also rude. She said, “If you didn’t want to stay in my dirty house, you could have stayed in a nice clean hostel.”
She lied to me about encouraging Tim’s advances, and she thought she could erase it from her memory and continue interacting with Tim and me normally. She is not to be trusted.
Anna really has no idea the damage she has done to me. She gave a simple apology because that’s what you do when your best friend confronts you with adultery of her husband, but she basically blames her actions on the Catholic patriarchy and rudely gives her arrogant advice.
Anna is aware of my past. I have experienced sexual assault, serious betrayal, my father’s alcoholism and my mother’s denial, and disgusting but false sexual claims. As a response to my husband who just cheated on me with my best friend she thinks, I will get over it soon.” This is a great example of her social intellect for others, as well as her enormous self-absorbed nature.
I have been friends with Anna for eleven years. She was the maid of honor at my wedding and she gave a beautiful speech that I have on videotape.
I told her parents about this and her father almost cried and her mother gave me flowers. They told me they would be very supportive, gentle, and loving of Anna because they are afraid she’ll do something typically characteristic of Anna. Something overly dramatic and stupid, like running away to Russia and living with street cats. They are also afraid she might commit suicide. They just want her to go home safely. I have never had any impression that Anna was suicidal.
When Anna’s parents spoke with Anna about this, whatever they said was so supportive, that this was Anna’s reaction:
“Man... I know our relationship has always been rocky, and I take her for granted lots... but my mom really came through for me today and has proved herself to be pretty awesome. Fair play to her!”
So in other words, if you’re a whiny overly dramatic brat who has a pretty decent life but know how to creatively dramatize your “hardships, tortured past, end of an age,” then you can get away with having adultery with your best friend’s husband.
Anna has jokingly said many times, “If you know me long enough I will hurt you either emotionally or physically.” I have come to realize that she is right. She is very unhealthy and is seeing a psychologist when she returns to Maryland. She is a dangerous person in which to become close. I regret everything we have ever done, and ever knowing her.
Abby Taylor
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