A happier post. I've now read about seven pregnancy books and pulled together a list of to-do items combed from all of them. Seriously, this is handy.
Everything from "what to do when you're thinking of having a baby" to "you need this" to "here are legal obligations you should address."
WHEN TRYING TO GET PREGNANT
Pre-conception check-up
Change medications
Prenatal vitamin each day
Babyproof the house
Carbon dioxide monitor
WHEN PREGNANT
REGISTER
car seat
sling
Brest Friend nursing pillow
first aid kit
side sleeper
changing pad (2 waterproof/washable)
bottles
diapers
baby wipes
onesies, sleepers, socks (1 newborn, 0-3 months, 3-6 months...)
baby blankets (several)
pacifier (2)
bib
burping towels
Mylicon drops (for gas)
lanolin cream, nursing bras, easy access shirt, nursing pads
A thermometer, infant Tylenol, a bulb syringe, nail clippers or baby emery Boards
baby monitor
baby shampoo, wash, lotion
rocking chair
money for housecleaner for first month/outside meals?
belly belt for exercise
An Avent Isis Breast Pump and An Ameda Purely Yours Breast Pump (rec'd)
PREP - MEDICAL/CAR
find doula
take cpr, first aid class if possible
find obgyn/midwife
find pediatrician
find childcare
find backup childcare
cord blood banking - consider
newborn care class
breastfeeding class
join mothering group
PREP - GENERAL
prep birth announcements (if desired)
prep website or scrapbook for birth pictures
cook double meals and freeze in the last two months
just before birth, buy in bulk: snacks, toilet paper, paper towels, garbage bags, pads...
dimmer switch in bedroom so baby isn't really woken by diaper change
pack hospital bag, cover mattress with plastic sheet
PREP - HOSPITAL TRIP
For mama:
clothes, preferably a light dress, that you don't mind trashing (including socks or slippers) for birth
robe
tons of pillows
any medication or glasses if needed
comfort music
magazines
puzzles and/or toys or coloring books for children (or yourself, or partner)
snacks
cell phone
straw (sipping is easier)
nursing bra and/or nursing nightgown, change of clothes including shoes
maternity pads (you'll be bloody)
For mama's partner:
back massager
camera(s)
toiletries, change of clothes
cell phone & list of important family numbers
yet more snacks and drinks
For baby:
diapers (newborn size - don't be fooled by "0-2 months" diapers)
hat (if winter)
blanket (if winter or you're into that)
newborn baby clothes (onesies are good)
baby socks/booties
PREP - LEGAL
life insurance
will
apply for social security number for baby