May 08, 2006 12:49
A friend of mine asked me for advice today, why I can't say. He just did. He was finding a rift opening between him and his girlfriend of six months and at the same time he was feeling more and more strongly for a girl he met at work. He was confused, and a little scared. I gave him the advice I would give to anyone, I told him to take some time to himself and figure out what he wanted. I knew this friend of mine was a devote christian, so I used what little I knew about the faith to strengthen my arguements whenever I could. I myself, do not believe as he does, but if it helped my get my point across, I felt it was the right thing to do. One can guess that because of my usage of his faith he came to believe that I believe as he does and he asked me to pray for him. This created an interesting moral and ethical dilemma for me. Do I lie and say I will pray for him and make him feel better, while at the same time, give him the belief that I am praying for him so he has the strength to work through his problem, or do I tell him the truth and call in question everything I have told him to this point? If he doubts my sincerity in what I have told him, he may very well doubt the advice and himself.
So I lied.