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Kind of a random post here...but did Ian ever make you feel inadequate or guilty???
For me, it seemed like every time he talked to me it was like he was pushing me to be a different person. He also made me feel really horrible a lot of the time.
He always talked about how my boyfriend Scott was manipulative, and rude, and horrible.
And then he would tell me how I manipulate Scott all the time.
And he would guilt trip me all the time about how I treated him too.
It wasn't until after I distanced myself from him that I realized that I didn't need to feel that way, but I always took whatever Ian told me very seriously. For some reason I thought he was helping me all along, and that what I was doing was horribly wrong and I needed to listen to his advice to be on a "better" path.
He made me feel like I should hate my life, where I was at the time, and who I was with. He tried to turn me against every person who mattered most to me...Especially Scott. Go figure. He wanted him Gone.
I spent many nights letting his words get to me, which always shattered my self-confidence...and made me consider dangerous alternatives.
I also had many dreams about Ian. While I was never "with" him...what he used to say to me really got under my skin for a long time. I had such respect for him, for his intelligence...a lot of the time he made me feel like I shouldn't even be talking to him because I felt so unequal.
After my experience with Ian, I couldn't think about him or his visit without feeling sick to my stomach for a Longggggggggg time.
I went through a period of absolutely hating him.
Then I just ignored him.
Anybody else experience stuff like that from him?
For me, it seemed like every time he talked to me it was like he was pushing me to be a different person. He also made me feel really horrible a lot of the time.
He always talked about how my boyfriend Scott was manipulative, and rude, and horrible.
And then he would tell me how I manipulate Scott all the time.
And he would guilt trip me all the time about how I treated him too.
It wasn't until after I distanced myself from him that I realized that I didn't need to feel that way, but I always took whatever Ian told me very seriously. For some reason I thought he was helping me all along, and that what I was doing was horribly wrong and I needed to listen to his advice to be on a "better" path.
He made me feel like I should hate my life, where I was at the time, and who I was with. He tried to turn me against every person who mattered most to me...Especially Scott. Go figure. He wanted him Gone.
I spent many nights letting his words get to me, which always shattered my self-confidence...and made me consider dangerous alternatives.
I also had many dreams about Ian. While I was never "with" him...what he used to say to me really got under my skin for a long time. I had such respect for him, for his intelligence...a lot of the time he made me feel like I shouldn't even be talking to him because I felt so unequal.
After my experience with Ian, I couldn't think about him or his visit without feeling sick to my stomach for a Longggggggggg time.
I went through a period of absolutely hating him.
Then I just ignored him.
Anybody else experience stuff like that from him?