Black White Episode 4
Bruno, the "white" father, reminds me of other men I know who try to rationalize feeling issues. Like Brian, the "black" father, I think Bruno's insensitive.And his rap was really obnoxious! I'm glad his wife spoke up to him about it.
Rose, the "white" teen, has really been getting into the "black culture". They've been getting more into some real depth about what different people think about what's good and bad in the culture and why it's different. Rose is so good at being respectful.
I've heard about the barbershop as a sort of cliche in the African American experience, but to see the father take the son to the barber to have a talk about getting respect just kind of tickled something in me to see that it's so real.
The way the show chose middle class, educated, functional familes that seem equal in most other ways, race/color can be singled out as a factor of inequality.
I think the "black" parents seem more reactive than expected, but I'm glad they are because most white people need to see how much it hurts and how real it is for them.
Also, I found this:
ON ACCOUNTABILITY
from The White Anti-racist Summit I
Accountability comes out of relationships, where I am clear on who is providing leadership - through work to support people of color leadership.
Doing what I say I am going to do (When I say I am going to do it).
When wanting to support a people of color led action / organizing, educate myself on who is leadership, communicate / check in on what is wanted from me/ us, follow through
When have succeeded in bringing more white folks out to people of color events, more requests come in.
We have to actively create relationships and accountability - it doesn’t just fall into our laps.
White folks need to hold each other accountable, developing deep relationships so as we hold each other accountable is from the heart.
Even as you are checking in and following through, we still willmake mistakes. Not take it as an attack. Sit with mistakes.
Accountability means being honest expressing disagreement respectfully, being committed to developing deep relationships and integrity.
Accountable relationships (explicitly asking for feedback & input, rather than just stating personal statuses) leading to planning/implementation of formal organization ( & not vica versa)
Be wiling to take time (4 years!!!)
Concrete internal work (with ourselves & other whites)
Explicit mission to support communities of color.
One-on-one learning relationships.
Clearly defining our personal responsibility to people closest to us (partner/kids)
WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE - EXAMPLES
White women’s group challenged by women of color and asked to explain what they were doing.
Let go of agenda when challenged.
Rockefellor Drug Law
Women/mother’s of color challenging white people to do something.
Accountability Council
Activists of color and organizers of color and white anti-racism activists.
Evaluations for opportunity to receive feedback.
Advisory Council to Catalyst (a small white-antiracist collective)
White and POC
Relationships biggest part of it
Hang out, get to know each other
Trust
Sharing resources and sustaining community in face of hard times.
Being there concretely sharing resources across class and race privilege.
Transparency
Comversations
Decision-making
Accountability to certain POC with particular politics.
Open sharing of resources and information.
Uneven attention (Angry White Men’s ballot initiative work)
Compensation - of one form or another
Value to me /group/
Feel valued & compensated (not taken for granted)
Least amount of damage
Not taking up leadership, materially support
Do the work
Leadership of Color - Structure
Informal based (check in)
Specific direction
Type of work
Co-collaborators
Support and solidarity
Veto Power Circuit Breaker
Leadership
Internal work
Do the work to accomplish those things
Actual work
Rose, the "white" teen, has really been getting into the "black culture". They've been getting more into some real depth about what different people think about what's good and bad in the culture and why it's different. Rose is so good at being respectful.
I've heard about the barbershop as a sort of cliche in the African American experience, but to see the father take the son to the barber to have a talk about getting respect just kind of tickled something in me to see that it's so real.
The way the show chose middle class, educated, functional familes that seem equal in most other ways, race/color can be singled out as a factor of inequality.
I think the "black" parents seem more reactive than expected, but I'm glad they are because most white people need to see how much it hurts and how real it is for them.
Also, I found this:
ON ACCOUNTABILITY
from The White Anti-racist Summit I
Accountability comes out of relationships, where I am clear on who is providing leadership - through work to support people of color leadership.
Doing what I say I am going to do (When I say I am going to do it).
When wanting to support a people of color led action / organizing, educate myself on who is leadership, communicate / check in on what is wanted from me/ us, follow through
When have succeeded in bringing more white folks out to people of color events, more requests come in.
We have to actively create relationships and accountability - it doesn’t just fall into our laps.
White folks need to hold each other accountable, developing deep relationships so as we hold each other accountable is from the heart.
Even as you are checking in and following through, we still willmake mistakes. Not take it as an attack. Sit with mistakes.
Accountability means being honest expressing disagreement respectfully, being committed to developing deep relationships and integrity.
Accountable relationships (explicitly asking for feedback & input, rather than just stating personal statuses) leading to planning/implementation of formal organization ( & not vica versa)
Be wiling to take time (4 years!!!)
Concrete internal work (with ourselves & other whites)
Explicit mission to support communities of color.
One-on-one learning relationships.
Clearly defining our personal responsibility to people closest to us (partner/kids)
WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE - EXAMPLES
White women’s group challenged by women of color and asked to explain what they were doing.
Let go of agenda when challenged.
Rockefellor Drug Law
Women/mother’s of color challenging white people to do something.
Accountability Council
Activists of color and organizers of color and white anti-racism activists.
Evaluations for opportunity to receive feedback.
Advisory Council to Catalyst (a small white-antiracist collective)
White and POC
Relationships biggest part of it
Hang out, get to know each other
Trust
Sharing resources and sustaining community in face of hard times.
Being there concretely sharing resources across class and race privilege.
Transparency
Comversations
Decision-making
Accountability to certain POC with particular politics.
Open sharing of resources and information.
Uneven attention (Angry White Men’s ballot initiative work)
Compensation - of one form or another
Value to me /group/
Feel valued & compensated (not taken for granted)
Least amount of damage
Not taking up leadership, materially support
Do the work
Leadership of Color - Structure
Informal based (check in)
Specific direction
Type of work
Co-collaborators
Support and solidarity
Veto Power Circuit Breaker
Leadership
Internal work
Do the work to accomplish those things
Actual work