my learnings from tonight's cell. *updated
28 sept, 10pm- *updated: i kinda lazily skipped the bible verses last night and decided to add them after chris told me over lunch today that she thought cell will be more on the bible. and it made me wanna complete the post properly. Taking it as a review on it as well. =) anyway, this is the song i had as cell's worship song yesterday.
I just got back from a frog prorridge supper at geylang which i skipped the frog meat. (really cant accept even the thought of chewing and tasting the meat.)
on the side note... regarding the meat factor. i have this dream to open a raw food cafe and and it is gonna be animal friendly! most probably gonna be a vegetarian house. think fresh greens tomates broccoli eggplant potatoes herbs dates flowers fruits mango strawberry apple pear peaches nuts hazelnuts almond honey, still comtemplating on adding dairy products.
and the best thing is everything is gonna be ALL good for the body. think no clogging, fats, weird substances, and strict on food preparation, raw food are uncooked or if need cook at a temp less than 46 degree celsius.
hmmm i will like to emphasis on the dream cafe another time when i have time to refresh my mind on the facts on raw food. and my stimulating views on it. its good to dot it down and you know.. piece pieces by pieces of work to reality, no matter how long it takes.
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about today's cell. Adriel share on Guidelines to finding an ideal partner. (relationship part 3)
i went to cell today as someone who decided its fine being single, to not wed, not giving birth, to be the best Aunt Yvonne and just pampering my future nephews and perhaps friend's child as well.
adriel shared that the bible encourages man have a wife.. Gensis 2:18 "And the Lord God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him." the verse goes on, creating Eve. another verse Proverbs 18:22 "He who finds a wife finds a good thing. And obtains favor from the Lord."
So okie, i got it. man and woman need to be together. so who and how?
(1) The ideal person must be committed to a lasting relationship.
2 Timothy 3:2 "For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphembers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy"
we have to be aware that there are people who turn their hearts away from God and people who will use you in time of their needs. we need to commit to the right people. Also do note that maintaining is the hardest part in a r.s and it is a two way traffic.
What is commitment in a r.s?
Commitment is a demonstration not by how he needs you, but a commitment of a man is shown when he reaches for you when he doesnt needs you.
We can learn from Ruth to be a good wife, despite her husband who died and her monther-in-law who allowed and asked her to leave the house to find a new husband, Ruth as a daughther-in-law stayed by her. Ruth 1:16 "But Ruth said: "Entreat me not to leave you, Or to turn back from following after you; For wherever you go, I will go; And wherever you lodge, I will lodgel Your people shall be my people, And your God, my God." "
(2) Look for a person with destiny. visionary.
a person without vision for is furture has no future. share your visions with each other which will help understand each other better. are your goals good?
find someone that can help lead you somewhere.
(3) Find a person that prize principle over friendship.
principle such as integrity, God's word, etc.
someone that can correct you.
not a double-minded person. Proverbs 27:6 "Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful."
(4) A person who is a sower than a taker.
It is more of a blessing to give than to take.
you can tell a man's character by the way he uses his money.
tithing is important, we entrust the money to church with God's promises. to rebuild, help the needy and etc. and it is also the only open visible thing that shows our dependence on faith in God.
Proverbs 11:25 "The generous soul will be made rish, And he who waters will also be watered himself."
(5) Physical standards
No one is perfect, lower our standards. appearances and money wise.
fact: no money, no honey. guys must set on goals to up your income. man is the breadwinner.
It is through tough times that you enjoy the company most.
have faith on the guy. learn to look at the heart. 1 Samual 16:7 " But the Lord said to Samuel, "Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearances, but the Lord looks at the heart."
(6) A person who is spiritual.
-how spiritual you ask? simple. someone who draws you to God. encourages and inspires you to know God. 2 Corinthians 6:14 "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?"
why find believers? Deuternomy 7:4 "For they will turn your sons away from following Me, to serve other gods, so the anger of the Lord will be aroused against you and destroy you suddenly."
Another verse, 1 King 11:4 " For it was so, when Soloman was old, that his wives turned his heart after other gods; and his heart was not loyal to the Lord his God, as was the heart od his father David."
Also we need to someone who you trust. who you can share dreams and burdens with. Leads to intimate and vulerable, which also explains why relationship hurts.
i totally appreciate the time and efforts of Bro's to come out with lessons to share with us. I'm thankful on how excited he wants to share his stuff and hoping we all have a better life. Enjoyed my company with the cell totally, had our laughters while learning. I'm thankful for the prayer he said for us, particularly the part on to heal our heart, forgive the times when r.s turned sour and the rock bottom things seem to be. unconsciously a couple tears starting rolling down the cheeks. i dont know where he got that from. but because of the prayer i'm feeling a lot better about life, dating, marriages and kids. my mind is clearer.
so this embarks me on my faith that yes, i should take plently of time to know someone i'm interested in to see if he is ideal, believe that there is someone there for me, multiply and have kids as the lord say so. haa. =)
*note: the guideline is summarzie and edited by the way my brain absorbs and dots in the notebook from the sharing from Bro. and some notes may be more on the female's point of view.