Gah! Where is the logic?!?!?!
Anytime you think that your life has gone to hell, just remember that someone will always have it worse than you. Always.
Take this example from a recent event that happened in my life. Actually this is what usually happens in my life.
Let's review the events of the past month or so-
March 16th ish- Devon tells both parents that she is going to Chicago to see Alex before he leaves for the other side of the country. BOTH parents agree that this is an acceptable plan.
April 1- Devon reminds her mom that she is still going with Alex to Chicago to stay with him and his parents. Her mom is a little hesitant, but Devon reminds her that both she and Dad already agreed to this plan.
April 18-Devon and Alex sit down together and formulate a solid plan about what they are going to do, see and pay for. Both call their parents and make sure that is ok to stay that week and to do those things. Both sets of parents agree that it is an acceptable plan.
April 22- Devon calls her mom to ask how she is getting out there and how many days she can stay. They agree that she will stay Tuesday to Saturday. They also agree that she can take Mom's car. Dad agrees on this plan, saying that she could even stay a few extra days.
April 29- Mom e-mails Devon a site for an airline company and tells her to buy airplane tickets. The tickets are $170 round trip. Devon says it's a dumb plan. She calls Alex who also says it's a dumb idea to fly. He calls his parents who ALSO say it is a bad idea to fly. Devon calls Dad who ALSO agrees; it is a bad idea to fly. Devon calls Mom back, tells her that everyone else said no.
May 1- Devon calls to work out final details about the car. Mom says that there is nothing to work out since she won't be taking the car. Devon explains that she didn't get airline tickets because everyone else agreed that it would be better to drive.
May 2- Devon is moved back to Columbus. Mom is holding fast to the idea that Devon will be flying to Chicago. Devon explains that she still didn't buy tickets because everyone else still thought it would be best to drive. Mom doesn't listen, insisting that she will be flying.
May 3- Dad comes to deliver Andrew. Devon sits both Mom and Dad down because she is tired of wasting 2 hours acting as a messenger between the two. Mom insists on flying. Dad is useless, figuring that it won't affect him so it doesn't matter. Mom says Devon will be flying because:
1.) She won't have a car to take to work.
2.) The car isn't safe to drive that far.
3.) Airline tickets are cheaper.
Mom and Devon look at flight tickets. Flights are $200. No longer cheaper than driving. Devon calls Pat. Pat says he will give up his car for the week to Mom and he will find a ride to school. Devon makes an appointment to take the car in to get it's oil changed. There is no longer an argument against driving. Mom says that Devon can't take the car anymore. Devon gets upset, saying that she can't not go because she and Alex already have tickets everywhere including center balcony seats to see Wicked. She insists that Mom see the reason in this plan. It is not smart to fly.
Mom gets angry. Storms out of the house and drives to God only knows where. Ignores calls from Devon. Devon hasn't heard from her since.
This is my life isn't it? This is how it's going to be for the next three months. I have a curfew. I need permission to go anywhere. I live with dysfunction. It takes at least two hours to reach any type of conclusion because both parents are acting like children. One is going backward on the maturity cycle, coming in at about a teenager with flighty decisions and no ability to see reason. The other is so wrapped up in his own life that anyone or anything else is of no concern unless it affects him.
I cleaned my fridge. There was a bottle of jam from 2003. There was yeast and chocolate sauce from 1995. My little brother moved into my room because he refused to clean his. There is paper and plates of half eaten food everywhere.
I miss Purdue.
Take this example from a recent event that happened in my life. Actually this is what usually happens in my life.
Let's review the events of the past month or so-
March 16th ish- Devon tells both parents that she is going to Chicago to see Alex before he leaves for the other side of the country. BOTH parents agree that this is an acceptable plan.
April 1- Devon reminds her mom that she is still going with Alex to Chicago to stay with him and his parents. Her mom is a little hesitant, but Devon reminds her that both she and Dad already agreed to this plan.
April 18-Devon and Alex sit down together and formulate a solid plan about what they are going to do, see and pay for. Both call their parents and make sure that is ok to stay that week and to do those things. Both sets of parents agree that it is an acceptable plan.
April 22- Devon calls her mom to ask how she is getting out there and how many days she can stay. They agree that she will stay Tuesday to Saturday. They also agree that she can take Mom's car. Dad agrees on this plan, saying that she could even stay a few extra days.
April 29- Mom e-mails Devon a site for an airline company and tells her to buy airplane tickets. The tickets are $170 round trip. Devon says it's a dumb plan. She calls Alex who also says it's a dumb idea to fly. He calls his parents who ALSO say it is a bad idea to fly. Devon calls Dad who ALSO agrees; it is a bad idea to fly. Devon calls Mom back, tells her that everyone else said no.
May 1- Devon calls to work out final details about the car. Mom says that there is nothing to work out since she won't be taking the car. Devon explains that she didn't get airline tickets because everyone else agreed that it would be better to drive.
May 2- Devon is moved back to Columbus. Mom is holding fast to the idea that Devon will be flying to Chicago. Devon explains that she still didn't buy tickets because everyone else still thought it would be best to drive. Mom doesn't listen, insisting that she will be flying.
May 3- Dad comes to deliver Andrew. Devon sits both Mom and Dad down because she is tired of wasting 2 hours acting as a messenger between the two. Mom insists on flying. Dad is useless, figuring that it won't affect him so it doesn't matter. Mom says Devon will be flying because:
1.) She won't have a car to take to work.
2.) The car isn't safe to drive that far.
3.) Airline tickets are cheaper.
Mom and Devon look at flight tickets. Flights are $200. No longer cheaper than driving. Devon calls Pat. Pat says he will give up his car for the week to Mom and he will find a ride to school. Devon makes an appointment to take the car in to get it's oil changed. There is no longer an argument against driving. Mom says that Devon can't take the car anymore. Devon gets upset, saying that she can't not go because she and Alex already have tickets everywhere including center balcony seats to see Wicked. She insists that Mom see the reason in this plan. It is not smart to fly.
Mom gets angry. Storms out of the house and drives to God only knows where. Ignores calls from Devon. Devon hasn't heard from her since.
This is my life isn't it? This is how it's going to be for the next three months. I have a curfew. I need permission to go anywhere. I live with dysfunction. It takes at least two hours to reach any type of conclusion because both parents are acting like children. One is going backward on the maturity cycle, coming in at about a teenager with flighty decisions and no ability to see reason. The other is so wrapped up in his own life that anyone or anything else is of no concern unless it affects him.
I cleaned my fridge. There was a bottle of jam from 2003. There was yeast and chocolate sauce from 1995. My little brother moved into my room because he refused to clean his. There is paper and plates of half eaten food everywhere.
I miss Purdue.