sometimes it just hits you in the face
I came into the office late this morning and when I open my email, the 1st one I read is my mom telling me that my dad left for another woman last wednesday. I am so lost at the moment. I do not know what to think or even know if I can begin to understand.
This man was not my biological father, but he "dad" to me. When I was a little kid, me and my mom both lived in the grand city of Montreal. And he was our next door neighbor in the apartment building. They feel in love, moved back to my city of birth (Val-d'Or) and got married. Soon after, I had a little brother called Simon which I fought with more times than Israel does with Palestine. Don't get me wrong, he is a great kid (well... man now) and I love him lots.
While growing up, I had a million disagreements with my dad. He was into sports, I was into computers. He was into building stuff and I was into being lazy. I think we saw eye to eye level when I was around 18-20. I worked a summer at the same place he did. I earned his respect by showing him I was not a slouch and that I could work as hard as any of them and he earned mine as I saw his work was not as easy as I thought it would be.
Anyways, when I moved to Montreal (when I turned 20), I made my own way into life. I did not cut myself completely from my family, but I did not keep contact with them as much as I should have. Perhaps I did not want to dissapointed. My dreams where to go to university, get a grand PhD in some branch of science (I used to love Chemistry, Physics and Biology and had interests in medecine even). But here I am, no PhD, no Masters and no Bachelor's degree. I had visions of being very rich and I am sure I had the potential to be so (well, maybe with OCELOT). But currently, I am just living a slightly better than average life.
So anyways, comes mother's day, send my mother the bouquet from heaven with FTP and call them on saturday or sunday of that weekend. My mom was really happy about the bouquet and after talking to my dad, he lets me know he is taking 2 weeks off in July. So I start thinking taking the last one of July in order to go see family (since I can finally afford it) and my dad invites me to go fishing, which I gladly accept. Have not been fishing in eons and I love fishing. Especially for trout, which is what we woudl have done.
Now, in my mind, this has to have been going on for a while. You do not just pack up and leave like that. Who is she. Why did my dad make plans when he knew that he would not keep them. Why no warning at all. What do I do now? What will happen to my mom? It seems no one had a clue. Not even his brother and his wife. I talk to Nicole this morning and she was very nice and understanding. It seems my brother has been very helpful and is taking care of my mom. Kudos to him for that. I am really appreciative.
If any of you have advice for me, please tell me because I am really lost here and do not know what to do.
This man was not my biological father, but he "dad" to me. When I was a little kid, me and my mom both lived in the grand city of Montreal. And he was our next door neighbor in the apartment building. They feel in love, moved back to my city of birth (Val-d'Or) and got married. Soon after, I had a little brother called Simon which I fought with more times than Israel does with Palestine. Don't get me wrong, he is a great kid (well... man now) and I love him lots.
While growing up, I had a million disagreements with my dad. He was into sports, I was into computers. He was into building stuff and I was into being lazy. I think we saw eye to eye level when I was around 18-20. I worked a summer at the same place he did. I earned his respect by showing him I was not a slouch and that I could work as hard as any of them and he earned mine as I saw his work was not as easy as I thought it would be.
Anyways, when I moved to Montreal (when I turned 20), I made my own way into life. I did not cut myself completely from my family, but I did not keep contact with them as much as I should have. Perhaps I did not want to dissapointed. My dreams where to go to university, get a grand PhD in some branch of science (I used to love Chemistry, Physics and Biology and had interests in medecine even). But here I am, no PhD, no Masters and no Bachelor's degree. I had visions of being very rich and I am sure I had the potential to be so (well, maybe with OCELOT). But currently, I am just living a slightly better than average life.
So anyways, comes mother's day, send my mother the bouquet from heaven with FTP and call them on saturday or sunday of that weekend. My mom was really happy about the bouquet and after talking to my dad, he lets me know he is taking 2 weeks off in July. So I start thinking taking the last one of July in order to go see family (since I can finally afford it) and my dad invites me to go fishing, which I gladly accept. Have not been fishing in eons and I love fishing. Especially for trout, which is what we woudl have done.
Now, in my mind, this has to have been going on for a while. You do not just pack up and leave like that. Who is she. Why did my dad make plans when he knew that he would not keep them. Why no warning at all. What do I do now? What will happen to my mom? It seems no one had a clue. Not even his brother and his wife. I talk to Nicole this morning and she was very nice and understanding. It seems my brother has been very helpful and is taking care of my mom. Kudos to him for that. I am really appreciative.
If any of you have advice for me, please tell me because I am really lost here and do not know what to do.