I don't love you, but I always will - a Damon/Elena shipper manifesto (part 2)

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Here goes part two! Part three will probably take me a good while to write. tvdbloodstream has a Top Ten challenge, and the ship part ends on Thursday, so it appears that first I have to work on something with actual deadline. But for now, part two is alive and kicking. Without further ado:

I don't love you, but I always will - a Damon/Elena shipper manifesto

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I want to enter your cult, please. It's so nice and cosy and awesome and inviting. I can't resist it.

First of all, I love this post. It's awesome. I love what you say. I love how you say it. I love that they are a lot of pretties that satisfy the beast in me (and makr me miss Ricky boy). To make it short : it's lovely. (Also, I love that you are suicidal enough to release such profanity knowing this crazy fandom. You brave little thing.)

Epic Love is the worst. Seriously. I hate it. It's the worst. (Yes, I like repeating myself.)
I actually love the idea of life-long relationships that last because of the hard work both parties put into. But I hate the idea that once you've found your epic partner, you're owned for life. Because let's not forget that this is what this is all about. Ultimately, Epic Love means Happily Ever After. And that means FOREVER. And Forever is just the worst thing ever invented. It's even worse than marriage. I hate it. Nothing should tie you forever to anybody. (Sorry, my ranting is getting out of hand.)
Not to mention that Epic Love loves to disregard growth and change. And I can't live without both.

And you know what Good Girls don't do? They don't jump guys they're not in love with.
YES. YES. YES. (I was writing about this this afternoon and YES FUCKING UNFORTUNATELY.)

I love this whole section. Love :
I've said that too many times already, but I will say it again: they have an understanding, and they have it, because they overidentify with each other. There's no hyper compassion or anything of a sort. They're just so alike. Both are ready to violate someone's free will if they think it's in their loved ones' best interest. Both feel too much. Both have a suicidal streak. They understand each other, because each of them keeps projecting their own feelings and thoughts on the other person, and they just happen to get it right, because they have so much in common.
It's so well put. And concise. I think I might quote you on that. (Is that allowed?)

Idem :
They're so casual with each other. Surprisingly comfortable, given the amount of sexual tension that is there almost all the time. Despite all the terrible things that happened to them, they can still just enjoy their lives. It really works for me, because, hey, what's the point of surviving all the threats if you don't bother living the life you've won?

Basically, this is good. You are good. I'm happy. And can therefore go back to my painting :D This was my 'I-have-no-focus-no-more-I-need-a-break' twenty minutes break. And now I need to get cracking, otherwise I'll never manage to get out of bed tomorrow morning... But it was a great break, thank you. (And the icecream was delicious!)

PS (regarding DE's epic dance) : I have ALWAYS wondered where people saw those epic, love-struck looks. I mean, for me, it was a nice moment. But when people where saying 'This is when I started shipping DE, they were so EPIC!', I was like 'Huh?'... I don't know. I don't see a lot of romantic/sexual tension in this scene. Or not more than they usually have. But now, I don't think I'll be able to watch it without cracking up. Which is awesome. This scene is finally special. Thanks doll ♥

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Careful! You're gonna make me blush, and that's not pretty!

(Also, I love that you are suicidal enough to release such profanity knowing this crazy fandom.

I'm a troll. And I find discussing stuff like that in open posts weirdly refreshing :).

Nothing should tie you forever to anybody.

I feel you. I never wanted anyone to promise me they'd be with me forever. If they just, idk, keep wanting to be with me for years, it's fine. But I don't want anyone staying just because they said they would.

I think I might quote you on that. (Is that allowed?)

I will be honored :D.

But when people where saying 'This is when I started shipping DE, they were so EPIC!'

I started shipping D/E when he broke her brother's neck in front of her :P.

I hope your painting went well, and that you got some sleep! If you didn't get any sleep, KNOW THAT I JUDGE YOU!

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Haha. You don't get to judge me!!!! I ACTUALLY went to sleep right after that! With some good logic the bf managed to convince me that it would be stupid to continue working all night and be all sleepy during class. Which at this point is the most important thing in my life. Every hour counts. (I threw such a rage fit when I fucking overslept last Tuesday!) So at that, I was very convinced and went to bed.
But yes, the painting is going really well right now. I am late as fuck though. And I freak out every single day over the fact that I only have three weeks of time with my (precious) teacher left. And after that I will be on my fucking own to finish this. (AHHHHHHH HELP ME I WILL DIE SUCH A PAINFUL DEATH THIS SUMMER!) And the pressure is on. Like the fuck on, since I'm in the middle of painting my blue Flower (and she's only the most important thing ever SHUT UP SELF!). But at least it's pretty :) For now.
(Yep, the panic is rising. No doubt about that.)

I feel you. I never wanted anyone to promise me they'd be with me forever. If they just, idk, keep wanting to be with me for years, it's fine. But I don't want anyone staying just because they said they would.
Yeah, staying because you promised is the ultimate worst. If you take out the choice to give love out of loving. Then you plainly destroy the heart and soul of love, the meaning of loving. The beauty of the gift that it is. I can't get over the fact that so many people see love as a duty and not as a (free) gift. This honestly makes me sad.

For me the worst thing of all is this fucked up cliché that 'I can't live without you' is romantic. It is not. FUCK. That's just blissful ignorance. Because the day I was faced with an earnest 'I wouldn't be here without you.' I fucking cried all the tears of my body. Instant response of my soul. Because it's not romantic. Not at all. Jeez people, snap out of it!

I started shipping D/E when he broke her brother's neck in front of her :P.
Ohhh, good one! But my shallowness knows no bounds when it comes to DE and shipping. No scene needed, bro, no scene needed! :D

Also : shut up. I am very happy to make you blush. So shush! And I'm sure it's a lovely sight. You're just too stubborn to see it. (Don't you dare talk back to me on that. Because Artaud(♥) is already -passionately- judgy enough for the both of us.) I'm positive : it's lovely. K?

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Good luck with painting as much as you can during those 3 weeks :). I'm sure you'll do an excellent job!

For me the worst thing of all is this fucked up cliché that 'I can't live without you' is romantic. It is not. FUCK.

WORD. You know what's really romantic? "I can totally live without you. But I still want to live with you."

But my shallowness knows no bounds when it comes to DE and shipping. No scene needed, bro, no scene needed! :D

I just consumed s1 in one crazy marathon, I didn't have time to start shipping anything ;). I need to process things in order to have opinions ;).

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YES YES TOTALLY YES EXACTLY FUCKING YES.
Why aren't more love stories about that?

I need to process things in order to have opinions ;).
Absolutely, me too. I just ship to different intensities and shipping can come from pretty much anything, where I'm concerned. (I (sort of) shipped DE before I had even seen a single episode of the show - shallow thing that I am.) But deep emotional attachment - God, are we creepy! - always comes from a slow, painful, over-analytical, often over-identifying, passionate processing of things :P