Life is getting complicated... Update on a few personal things.
I was originally scheduled for just simply a cleaning on the 21st. This was scheduled on the 7th. Now since my dad and my dentist discussed the extensive work that needs to be done, that appointment has been canceled.
And three put in its place. Yeah. Three. And they are as follows.
November 25th @ 7:30am: 2 hour session of dental work
December 11th @ 8:00am: 3 hour session of dental work
December 18th @ 8:00am: Up to 3 hour session of dental work
Oh, you wanna know the best part?? That's just for the upper right section of teeth. I shit you not. 8 hours of dental work for just 7 teeth. Albeit, it's the section that needs the most amount of work.
In those 7 teeth, I am getting a total of:
19 fillings (2 in one tooth, 3 in another, 4 in two separate teeth, and 6 in one tooth. Keep in mind this is not just cavities, this is also decayed areas of the tooth on the surface and inside the tooth.)
2 crowns
2 root canals
2 posts (That's one of each in 2 separate teeth)
Holy. Shit. I have a feeling I might have to postpone my move to Florida just so I can get all my dental work done before I move...
Now on to some good news.
So about 2 weeks ago, I had met this guy on a forum site I frequent very often. He was a pretty cool guy to talk to. Had some stuff in common, namely my favorite TV Show, Mystery Science Theater 3000. We talked every now and then. We became decent friends. And then, Drew ended our relationship with good reasoning. Even though it was mutual, it still really got to me. After I hung up the phone, I cried. And cried. I was sad, even though Drew and I had a wonderful time together in those 4 months. It was an awesome summer.
As I always do after a break-up, I turn to friends for consolation. I came to grips, told myself it's for the better, and moved on. I tried to get more serious about school work and focusing on moving to Florida to start a new life. Even still, the mention of Riff-Raff makes me sad. Either way, Michael was one of the people I found consolation in. Him and I started talking more. I got back into my Stickam. Eventually him and I just started talking more and more. As time progressed, we found out that we had... just about everything in common. Things like favorite TV show (MST3K), favorite breakfast cereal (Cracklin' Oat Bran), love for Star Trek, the paranormal, and our hatred of phones. We even thought the same way, had the same concepts on life, death, and everything in between.
Generally, when it comes to relationships, I experience differing degrees of unrequited love about 60%-65% of the time. Generally I love too much. With Michael, our attractions grew equally at the same time.
Think of it this way: You know those old time-elapsed nature videos? Like where they show a whole year of seasons change in a time frame of 10 seconds? Or the video of an insect getting consumed by a colony of ants in about 20 seconds? Our feelings for each other grew like that in comparison to how normal feelings grow. What's supposed to take a few months happened in a time span of about 4 days or so. I couldn't believe it. When Michael told me the feelings were reciprocated to the same degree, I didn't believe him at first. Then I began to realize he did.
At first, I would approach telling him my feelings with caution. When I learned his feelings were identical to mine, I threw that caution to the proverbial wind. Then last night/early this morning, something happened to me physically that had never happened to me before. My heart started to race. I thought I couldn't possibly be any more in love before that moment. Well, when I got home from class today, I took it upon myself to research the biological and scientific workings of this "love" phenomenon. And found this:
"The long-term attachment felt after the initial "in love" passionate phase of the relationship ends is related to oxytocin, a chemical released after orgasm. Moreover, novelty triggers attraction. Thus, nerve-racking activities like riding a roller coaster are good on dates. Even working out for several minutes can make one more attracted to other people on account of increased heart rate and other physiological responses."
Courtesy of www.wikipedia.com
There was a higher level of love than what I normally felt for a person. After I experienced the sensation of a newfound level of love, I had to pause and ponder it. And I came to the conclusion that I had found my "soul mate".
Michael is hopefully coming to visit me sometime in January. We're gonna see if we click in real life as well as we do through the Internet. And if we DO hit it off as much, he will be moving with me to Florida and we will start our life together. Which means I will not be going to Canada. At least not for the same reasons I was originally planning to move to Canada for.
Now in saying this, you may say what you want. "Don't you think that's a little too fast, Ashley?" Or whatever thoughts or theories or ideas come to mind. I know what I'm feeling. And believe me when I say, throughout the exponential growth of reciprocated love, I was very scared. Scared of my feelings. Scared of why I was falling in love so fast and so hard. Wondering if this was gonna be just another guy I love too much and scare off. Is it false? Is he just saying these things?
No. I know it's real. I am following my heart. And this time I'm not afraid to do so.
So as I had stated before in previous posts, I did not have to testify after all on the 13th. I called my Victim's Assistance counselor, Peggy, today to get the rundown on what is going on with it. She was shocked that the DA, Chris Trevino, hadn't been in contact with us about the case. Well, either way, basically what she told me was that the proceedings on the 13th were just a hearing to determine whether or not he was competent enough to stand trial, as he had gone through a battery of competency tests. The conclusion was drawn that he was, in fact, competent to stand trial. His next court date will be the 25th. This is a "readiness hearing", of which I do not know the goings-on. My hypothesis is that it's to ensure he's "ready" as you will, to go to trial.
Which brings me to the date of December 1st, 2008. The first day of the preliminary trial. This will be the day I'd be subpoenaed for. At least now I have a bit of a warning. The other person directly involved in this matter has since left the state. If and when she gets subpoenaed, the DA will pay for her flight to and from California. You cannot evade a subpoena.
Just a quickie: I have an appointment on the 21st, which unfortunately coincides with my Medical Terminology class. Unfortunately, that is the last class before the final. I have to take this appointment date, because the next available day is December 2nd, and I can't wit that long in pain.
So, tl dr;
7 teeth + 2 crowns + 2 root canals + 19 fillings + 2 posts = 8 hours of dental work.
I have found my soul mate in the most unlikeliest of places.
I might have to testify the beginning of December.
I have another doctor's appt. about my back next Friday.
Now, you have officially been updated on how my life is going. Needless to say, the next month of my life will be extremely difficult. Bear with me on this one, guys.