Wedding thoughtdump
I promise I am trying to not turn all my various internet soapboxes (twitter, lj, etc) into "wedding blogs" but I have to dump some random wedding-related dreck in here to get it out of my head for a minute.
DECLARATION: I don't particularly want a bachelorette party, or even a bridal shower really. However, should I find myself at something resembling a bachelorette party, there are to be ABSOLUTELY NO phallic novelty items whatsoever. No "peenie pops," no penis-shaped straws, no giant inflatable penises, none of it. (And especially, for the love of God, no stripper penises!) It's one thing if everybody knows a married couple is going to be getting it on, but I'd rather not have it discussed or even implied in such a crude fashion.
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I am flirting with the idea of a corset as foundation garment, but I am also afraid of them. I don't want anything drastic, but a classic silhouette and a little extra help holding in my flabby bits would be nice. But the fear: I have never worn a corset, especially not a real corset with real boning and laces, and I worry that it would be really uncomfortable. I want to eat my dinner and cake and dance and sit down comfortably. Real corsets also all seem to be made to order affairs where you can't really try it on and see how it feels before you plunk down the $300+ to have one made for you. There's also the fact that I'm wishing and hoping to keep my entire outfit under $400 and spending most of that on undergarments seems silly.
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Yesterday Mike and I went to check out a couple of facilities. At one of them, the lady we met with introduced herself to me, and only me, and without leaving even a half second of time in which to say "...and this is Mike" before leading us off and beginning her sales pitch. That bugged me a lot. Their ballroom was also yellow and ugly, but the courtyard ceremony space was really pretty.
I know I said before I didn't want a hotel ballroom, but I'm coming around. A lot of the non-ballroom facilities were way out of our price range, too small for more than 100 people, or both. And most of them required we find outside catering on top of the room rental fee. These ballrooms only charge a minimum for food a drink to use the room and even with our smallish number of guests reaching the minimums isn't too hard. A lot of them also have perks like a complimentary room for us and include services like cake serving and champagne toasts for everyone that other places might nickel and dime you for. With the right decorations I think even that ugly yellow ballroom, at the hotel that forgot the groom is part of the whole wedding deal, would look nice and suit us as a couple.
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It figures that we would pick a date that was the same weekend as a Michigan State home football game. D: But we already figured that October 23rd would work for my immediate family, and I realized the other day that October has been a fairly significant month in our relationship. We met in October, and we moved in together in October. As much as possible I'd like to keep our wedding date within October but with family schedules it only leaves us this one weekend so I hope everything works out. We've already found spaces that are open, it's just a matter of being able to reserve conveniently located rooms for out of town guests (aka my entire side of the guest list).
DECLARATION: I don't particularly want a bachelorette party, or even a bridal shower really. However, should I find myself at something resembling a bachelorette party, there are to be ABSOLUTELY NO phallic novelty items whatsoever. No "peenie pops," no penis-shaped straws, no giant inflatable penises, none of it. (And especially, for the love of God, no stripper penises!) It's one thing if everybody knows a married couple is going to be getting it on, but I'd rather not have it discussed or even implied in such a crude fashion.
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I am flirting with the idea of a corset as foundation garment, but I am also afraid of them. I don't want anything drastic, but a classic silhouette and a little extra help holding in my flabby bits would be nice. But the fear: I have never worn a corset, especially not a real corset with real boning and laces, and I worry that it would be really uncomfortable. I want to eat my dinner and cake and dance and sit down comfortably. Real corsets also all seem to be made to order affairs where you can't really try it on and see how it feels before you plunk down the $300+ to have one made for you. There's also the fact that I'm wishing and hoping to keep my entire outfit under $400 and spending most of that on undergarments seems silly.
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Yesterday Mike and I went to check out a couple of facilities. At one of them, the lady we met with introduced herself to me, and only me, and without leaving even a half second of time in which to say "...and this is Mike" before leading us off and beginning her sales pitch. That bugged me a lot. Their ballroom was also yellow and ugly, but the courtyard ceremony space was really pretty.
I know I said before I didn't want a hotel ballroom, but I'm coming around. A lot of the non-ballroom facilities were way out of our price range, too small for more than 100 people, or both. And most of them required we find outside catering on top of the room rental fee. These ballrooms only charge a minimum for food a drink to use the room and even with our smallish number of guests reaching the minimums isn't too hard. A lot of them also have perks like a complimentary room for us and include services like cake serving and champagne toasts for everyone that other places might nickel and dime you for. With the right decorations I think even that ugly yellow ballroom, at the hotel that forgot the groom is part of the whole wedding deal, would look nice and suit us as a couple.
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It figures that we would pick a date that was the same weekend as a Michigan State home football game. D: But we already figured that October 23rd would work for my immediate family, and I realized the other day that October has been a fairly significant month in our relationship. We met in October, and we moved in together in October. As much as possible I'd like to keep our wedding date within October but with family schedules it only leaves us this one weekend so I hope everything works out. We've already found spaces that are open, it's just a matter of being able to reserve conveniently located rooms for out of town guests (aka my entire side of the guest list).