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Sweet jesus, I hate my family. I can't work ANYWHERE, where ever I put my model stuff, I get yelled at about. I put it in the craft room, mom kicks me out because its her room. I put it in my room and then I went to college and then it got shoved into the closet because mom had wanted to clean my room. I tried to put them downstairs and I got

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Your family is worth fighting for and being a part of

[anonymous]

There is no reason why you have to be rude to Mom. You are not me, you are different and you can better than me if you just try. There is a lot to be grateful for if you are willing to put the work into trying to see it as something worth fighting for instead of something to put down every chance you get. You know as well as I do that the 'messes' are a little more extensive than you describe...what makes all the difference there is if you clean up afterwards she wouldn't make as much of a fuss, but you tend to leave things and do something else. And as for the other things she says, the best way to deal with that is to agree, but also show some appreciation for what she and I are doing...I could have taken that last bit of advice to heart this morning...she didn't tell me Mary was coming at 8 and so she was trying to get everything cleaned up and had I known about M I would have come over earlier to help with Grandma.

This family of yours isn't perfect, but I don't know of many that are. Those families that seem to be doing better do so because of a concerted effort by everyone concerned. Your family could do better if you spent less time harping over what was wrong with it than seeing what was right...what would some of those things be, you may ask? Both parents giving a rip about you, for starters...being encouraging and a resource for information...having computers available and trying to get the software you need...giving you the chance to go to a school like SCAD...a dad paying above and beyond what was required by law for child support...you have a home to come back to...those are starters; there are a lot more. And from a purely selfish note, I don't know what I would have done if Mom AND you weren't around to help Grandma before she could be placed in a nursing facility...Mom didn't have to do what she did...she told me that you didn't help her with taking Grandma to her appointment yesterday...I asked you to help out...that would have made a big difference in the way Mom's mood was this morning and last night.

So we may all be a big pile of shit to your way of thinking, but there is no reason why you can't try harder to make things better. I am not denying that there is plenty wrong with our family...certainly I could have done a better job talking with Mom this AM but at least I came over early with coffee and Villagio stuff to try to say thanks...would it hurt to be more communicative and more considerate to Mom? You can call me an asshole and then get over it...why can't you just deal with Mom without blowing up and see that you have a lot to be thankful for?

Anyhow...at least you can thank your Mom for my not waking you up and giving you heck over not being more of a help yesterday. I don't read these entries usually so if you want to blast me, go ahead, but I am telling you right here and now that if you blast your family, you include Grandma and me in the equation, and it could be a helluva lot better if you spent just a little more time doing some reflective communication, especially with Mom...and if you appreciated what you have instead of bemoaning what you don't. Life IS a helluva lot easier to deal with if you view it as a series of opportunities instead of drudgeries...and take it from me, it's a lot easier to try to be optimistic than it is to always be down or pissed.

The other parent in your 'family' equation