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For a short while, I maintained a Xanga account. long forgotten, i for some reason decided to go back and read all my entries. Among them was this particular essay i wrote...
What's the deal with "love," anyway?
What is it about love that inspires people? What is it that causes individuals to be wholly consumed in happiness, or completely miserable, even for the rest of their lives? I recently read somewhere of a study done on human brain patterns and chemical balances involving the emotion commonly known as "love"...it went on to say that the initial feeling of "love," or simply emotional attraction to someone, only lasts for a period of time...a very short time, in fact (only a certain number of MONTHS...I don't exactly remember), which leaves enough time to meet, greet, reproduce, then fall out of "love" and move on. Not so reassuring, if commitment and trust issues seem to be a problem for you.
So, what exactly IS love? Is it simply nature's way of keeping the human race from extinction, or do people really become "connected" in a deeper sense than that? If the studies really proved to be true, how come men and women alike spend time and money as well as emotion to produce music, poetry, art, etc. to express how it makes them feel? Why?
Why waste time on this feeling? How does this emotion benefit someone, when there is the chance it will end up evolving into a different, painful emotion anyway, such as sadness, regret, or anger? People are people. They cheat and they lie. They say hurtful things to get a trivial point across. Sometimes they are physically violent towards one another. Even then, many who are abused seem to think they can "work things out," that they are "in love" and the abuser will somehow change. Sadly, this usually isn't the case. Does it really seem worth it?
The saying goes, "love is blind." This statement is often interpreted into different meanings for different people. Perhaps it should be rephrased simply to "love causes blindness." Why else would people go through crazy extremes for the sake of love? It's like tunnel vision for some people. 24/7, they think about this other person, who may or may not be thinking about them at all. Turn on the radio. What do you hear? 99 times out of 99 and a half (with exception of advertisements and perhaps some radio talk shows), it will be a song involving love or heartbreak, about breaking up, making up, ex bashing, or whatnot. Why is everyone so obsessed? If you love someone, tell them. If you're pissed at them, and you somehow don't have the ability to let them know, why would the rest of the world want to know? (I guess they must, considering the amount of money going into the music/entertainment industry...) Even those who claim to be "over" someone, who are "moving on" or whatever have obviously put some time and effort into proclaiming this, when they are still very much focusing on what they claim to be no longer affected by.
Maybe someday it will all make sense to me. Rather, perhaps I will be blinded like every other enamored person and will have the belief that I actually understand this complex mentality.
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What's the deal with "love," anyway?
What is it about love that inspires people? What is it that causes individuals to be wholly consumed in happiness, or completely miserable, even for the rest of their lives? I recently read somewhere of a study done on human brain patterns and chemical balances involving the emotion commonly known as "love"...it went on to say that the initial feeling of "love," or simply emotional attraction to someone, only lasts for a period of time...a very short time, in fact (only a certain number of MONTHS...I don't exactly remember), which leaves enough time to meet, greet, reproduce, then fall out of "love" and move on. Not so reassuring, if commitment and trust issues seem to be a problem for you.
So, what exactly IS love? Is it simply nature's way of keeping the human race from extinction, or do people really become "connected" in a deeper sense than that? If the studies really proved to be true, how come men and women alike spend time and money as well as emotion to produce music, poetry, art, etc. to express how it makes them feel? Why?
Why waste time on this feeling? How does this emotion benefit someone, when there is the chance it will end up evolving into a different, painful emotion anyway, such as sadness, regret, or anger? People are people. They cheat and they lie. They say hurtful things to get a trivial point across. Sometimes they are physically violent towards one another. Even then, many who are abused seem to think they can "work things out," that they are "in love" and the abuser will somehow change. Sadly, this usually isn't the case. Does it really seem worth it?
The saying goes, "love is blind." This statement is often interpreted into different meanings for different people. Perhaps it should be rephrased simply to "love causes blindness." Why else would people go through crazy extremes for the sake of love? It's like tunnel vision for some people. 24/7, they think about this other person, who may or may not be thinking about them at all. Turn on the radio. What do you hear? 99 times out of 99 and a half (with exception of advertisements and perhaps some radio talk shows), it will be a song involving love or heartbreak, about breaking up, making up, ex bashing, or whatnot. Why is everyone so obsessed? If you love someone, tell them. If you're pissed at them, and you somehow don't have the ability to let them know, why would the rest of the world want to know? (I guess they must, considering the amount of money going into the music/entertainment industry...) Even those who claim to be "over" someone, who are "moving on" or whatever have obviously put some time and effort into proclaiming this, when they are still very much focusing on what they claim to be no longer affected by.
Maybe someday it will all make sense to me. Rather, perhaps I will be blinded like every other enamored person and will have the belief that I actually understand this complex mentality.
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