Him...
no matter how hard i try to fight it...it still gets me to the core. although i have been getting know other guys, josiah always occupies my thoughts. i still love him. this love hasn't lessened one bit. and now...he's back from japan. i haven't seen him and i know a visit is inevitable. i wonder how it will be. we talked this afternoon about the
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Only a true friend who cares will tell you bluntly and not sugar-coat the truth, and I'll take the liberty of being that person.
*a* You really have no idea what you want to be with Josiah huh? I don't understand why it's difficult for you to continue a relationship with him after all that has happened when you two were still together? Is there some kind of written law that two persons cannot hold or maintain a relationship at the same time support each other with work and studies? Deep down you know you want to. Why are you stopping yourself from getting what you want? He did say that you two were "perfect for each other." Now he says that he was just following along with you deciding you two should just be friends. If you take into consideration those things he said, you wouldn't be "forcing him into a relationship" (something you mentioned in a past livejournal entry) with you because he isn't resisting anything. That's your cue to take advantage of what is being presented to you.
*b* Now if you really want to get over him in spite of how you feel in your heart, then just think of all the things that bother you about him (I'm pretty sure you made a sub-conscious mental list of them) and you will get turned-off by them and get over him in no time. It's a universal known fact that all things negative out-weigh the positive things of humans; and 99.9% of people look to the bad things of other people than recognizing the good. I know you know that statement is true.
...that's all I have to say for now. I shared with you my honest blunt opinions of your Josiah situation because it's starting to get ridiculously damaging to your emotional health, and I don't like seeing that happen to you. I know a friend is supposed to be supportive no matter what, but they are also supposed to be truthful all the time (at least a real friend would). A real friend cares for your over-all well-being and won't sugar-coat the things that can drastically affect your life negatively or positively; they are protective of you and want only the best for you and will tell it as it is.
Well...I have done what little I can do on my part. I presented to you two honest opinions of either course of action. Please do something about it; it pains me to see you hurt like this when you actually have the power to make your heartache go away.
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