Truth and Beauty, Beauty and Truth

[unmaker]

"Talking to you is like having sex."

That's what she said to me on Tuesday. Who she is exactly, I won't say. You might not want to know. Suffice it to say that she isn't on my friend's list and wouldn't be anyone you'd be likely to guess. Anyway, you'd think I'd be flattered. It's probably the sexiest compliment I've ever received, and was

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[museumgirl]

Lovely analogy -- hadn't heard or thought of that one before. I tend to think of my lovers less as flavors and more as lessons. From each one I have gained some crucial kernel of wisdom, enabling me to progress to the next level as it were. I can pinpoint the exact specific lesson learned in almost every case -- and even the moment of epiphany.

But the problem with that approach is that it's terribly intellectual. An odd dichotomy, to be sure, but for years while I craved romance and would never even think about sex without love, my chief concern in a relationship was intellectual. Although I longed for a physical connection, for years I downplayed the importance of that need, feeling that the fulfillment of those needs was baser (and therefore less important) than my intellectual, and to a lesser degree emotional, needs. Lover number seven taught me that there was no need to put these elements at odds with one another.

Yes, the connection between the intellectual, emotional and physical attraction is essential.

And perhaps I'm lucky. I've tasted some foul wine, but I've never had vinegar.

[unmaker]

Mind and body are one and the same. I'm just as much testosterone as gray matter - as it all contributes to the experience that is Brian. :-) And yet, this realization is itself a product of intellectualism. As I see it though, there needn't be a dichotomy between reason and emotion, so long as neither is left sitting on the proverbial bench. I've come to accept - and with considerable difficulty - that we humans are complex creatures, with needs both many and varied, and thus my own days of defining myself by intellect alone... are over.

That being said, I could never imagine myself pairing up with someone who I didn't consider my intellectual equal. The mind still needs what it needs.

[museumgirl]

I am so 100% right there with you on all counts.

[unmaker]

You like a little testosterone with your gray matter, do you? :-)

[museumgirl]

As a matter of fact, I do, or that is to say, I like a little testosterone with my partner's gray matter! :)