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Despite the almost 4 hours of useless driving in the rain today, I feel like today is a better day. I think I'm starting to realize what people I need to keep around and what people just make my life worse. I guess going to a small party the other day and just meeting new people that I ACTUALLY had a lot of fun with made me realize that friendship shouldn't be such a struggle. I felt more comfortable with these complete strangers than I did the person throwing the party, who I've been friends with since the summer. Some people click with me and some people don't. And no matter how much you may care about someone, if they don't flip the switch or hit the right buttons to make those special parts of you light up, then they aren't worth being a big part of your life.
Which is definitely easier said than done.
I've recently discovered that other families aren't like mine, other friendships aren't like mine with my friends. I guess I always thought that how my relationships work is how all "close" relationships work. But I've come to find out that this is not true, and that a lot of people don't even realize what they're missing out on. It just makes me really thankful for the people in my life, the more I meet people who relate to others differently.
Especially those who are pessimistic. I really don't understand people who complain all the time. Sometimes things can get really bad, and you've got to take the time to cope with them and accept them for the struggle that they are. But I promise, the world's not out to get you just because you've had a few minor bad incidents lately. I believe in misfortune; I don't believe in bad luck. You're given the chance to make what you will out of things.
I want to surround myself with more good people and extend my group of friends with humorous, intelligent, caring, and generally happy people. People that realize your interactions with others are what makes life good. And that, as rough as things are at a certain point in time, still believe in the beauty of people and the world, even if it's hard for them to see it at the moment.
I'm not trying to sound preachy. It's just I'm finally admitting to myself that some people in my life don't meet these standards, as much as I would like them to.
And maybe it's not their fault because that's just how they've been raised to interact with people, but that doesn't make it any less true that we just aren't compatible, no matter how much we care for one another.
Which is definitely easier said than done.
I've recently discovered that other families aren't like mine, other friendships aren't like mine with my friends. I guess I always thought that how my relationships work is how all "close" relationships work. But I've come to find out that this is not true, and that a lot of people don't even realize what they're missing out on. It just makes me really thankful for the people in my life, the more I meet people who relate to others differently.
Especially those who are pessimistic. I really don't understand people who complain all the time. Sometimes things can get really bad, and you've got to take the time to cope with them and accept them for the struggle that they are. But I promise, the world's not out to get you just because you've had a few minor bad incidents lately. I believe in misfortune; I don't believe in bad luck. You're given the chance to make what you will out of things.
I want to surround myself with more good people and extend my group of friends with humorous, intelligent, caring, and generally happy people. People that realize your interactions with others are what makes life good. And that, as rough as things are at a certain point in time, still believe in the beauty of people and the world, even if it's hard for them to see it at the moment.
I'm not trying to sound preachy. It's just I'm finally admitting to myself that some people in my life don't meet these standards, as much as I would like them to.
And maybe it's not their fault because that's just how they've been raised to interact with people, but that doesn't make it any less true that we just aren't compatible, no matter how much we care for one another.