Being Mad
Right now my daughter is angry with me, she said that she is hurt. But she is not calling me, etc. So to me that mean angry. You may ask why is she angry. Because I will be at the beach When the baby turns 1 and she is having a big party for the baby. She said that she and Tony ( her husband) were very hurt by this, Then she tried to play the guilt trip on me with "she is your only grandchild". A few things here,
1. we are going the week we are, because we lost the 4th of July week last year by not going to the beach because I didn't want to be that far away from her, when she was due.
2. When there is a large gathering and Tony's family are there (they are very nice people, but) they just take over, my husband and I can't really get near the baby anyway.
3. I warned everybody years ago that they had better never tell me that I couldn't go somewhere, because of grandchildren.
4. I personally think that this is a stupid reason to be angry. I figured that after we were back we would have a little party at our house for the baby with a little cake just for her to mush up. and another for the rest of us.
Now at first I was not going to bother calling her and just let her call me. But I have decided that I should call her and let her get it out of her system, because this has the potential to blow up into something big and very very ugly. I know, my parents and I didn't talk for the first 7 1/2 years I was married, they missed my childrens growing and many wonderful thing. This has that kind of potential unless something is said now. I am willing to go out on that limb and try, so that if this does go ugly, I can know that I did try. Because I speak from experience if it goes really bad and ugly, it is never the same again. You just can't get the same feelings back.
I have tried to call her while I was on lunch today on both her cell and her house phone there was no answer. I don't know if she is busy or not picking up because it is me. I will try again later. I really don't want this to go down that very bad road.
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Univeralmom
1. we are going the week we are, because we lost the 4th of July week last year by not going to the beach because I didn't want to be that far away from her, when she was due.
2. When there is a large gathering and Tony's family are there (they are very nice people, but) they just take over, my husband and I can't really get near the baby anyway.
3. I warned everybody years ago that they had better never tell me that I couldn't go somewhere, because of grandchildren.
4. I personally think that this is a stupid reason to be angry. I figured that after we were back we would have a little party at our house for the baby with a little cake just for her to mush up. and another for the rest of us.
Now at first I was not going to bother calling her and just let her call me. But I have decided that I should call her and let her get it out of her system, because this has the potential to blow up into something big and very very ugly. I know, my parents and I didn't talk for the first 7 1/2 years I was married, they missed my childrens growing and many wonderful thing. This has that kind of potential unless something is said now. I am willing to go out on that limb and try, so that if this does go ugly, I can know that I did try. Because I speak from experience if it goes really bad and ugly, it is never the same again. You just can't get the same feelings back.
I have tried to call her while I was on lunch today on both her cell and her house phone there was no answer. I don't know if she is busy or not picking up because it is me. I will try again later. I really don't want this to go down that very bad road.
Hugs
Univeralmom