again
I'm annoyed. I returned the coat my mother got Allan at Target today. She PURPOSELY left the price tag on it to say $80. I remember several occasions where she unwrapped gifts because she wasn't sure she cut the price off of them. I knew it was on there for a reason. Yep. She got it on clearance for $40, took off the red ticket, and left the original price tag on. Allan said that we can just burn them movies for the every gift-giving event from now on. Fine. If I can find free blank dvds. And her cheapness would have been fine, if any of the gifts she gave had any thought behind them. I got $80 in a box because I don't live at home, and if I did, they would have paid for my brakes. In what world is having your own house and family at nearly 29 years old looked down upon? Seriously. She will be in therapy daily when she's in a home. Actually, a mental institution would suit her better when I have to put her in a home. At least it'll be worth the money.
Which brings me to baptism. My mother brings it up at least once a month. There is no way in hell we're baptizing Matilda. If she wants to join a religion when she gets older, that's totally great, and I'll support her. I don't need a baby/toddler/child thinking that she's going to hell at the drop of a hat. If I was bad, I had to stand in the corner until I "got the devil out." Not until I could behave. Until I got the devil out. Everything I did was to keep from going to hell. I remember wanting to run away when I was 12. The only reason I didn't was because disobeying your parents was a sin. I want Matilda to know that if she does something wrong, we're still going to love her. She just has to learn from that and try not to do it again. Kids make mistakes and don't need hell hanging over them to try to stop them from making mistakes. Everything is a guilt trip with my parents. People getting cancer is somehow my fault. When we were fighting on the phone a couple of weeks ago, completely off topic, my mother said, "Uncle Rico has cancer, you know." I don't understand how being Catholic is an excuse for her to be a complete asshole.
Also, she tries to talk me into liking other guys. Or get me into a conversation about it, anyway. She's CONSTANTLY bringing up Matt Farina and Tony Nunes. I've made it clear that I hate both of them. I don't just not like them as boys. I wouldn't be upset if they were found in pieces. Why bring up "they were always nice to you," or "you used to like them" when YOUR DAUGHTER IS MARRIED? I don't know if she thinks I'm being held hostage, or what. And her family supports the way she acts toward Allan. If my grandmother acted like that toward my father, or even if she got my mother into sideways conversations like that, my mother would not be talking to her to this day.
So basically, I'm done. I'm not calling. If they call me, I'll think about answering. It's a crappy situation for my kid to watch. Even now, she's going to start getting the message that my parents are superior to us. I was feeding her avocado and she gagged because my mother was making a racket. "Oh, you don't like that. Mommy made it too big! Yuck. Avocado." That's why I didn't like starches as a kid. At least the distance will help. She won't see them as much and she'll end up seeing me recovering after every visit.
I think we're going to have to go out somewhere new after every time my parents visit to reset Matilda's brain and so that I'm less upset the following week. Can I bill them for stress treatments? There was a new study that found that anger chemicals in the bloodstream lead to early death.
I thought about writing her a letter. But I know it'll be misinterpreted or completely ignored. I wrote my father a 7 page e-mail in college. His response was 3 lines.
Which brings me to baptism. My mother brings it up at least once a month. There is no way in hell we're baptizing Matilda. If she wants to join a religion when she gets older, that's totally great, and I'll support her. I don't need a baby/toddler/child thinking that she's going to hell at the drop of a hat. If I was bad, I had to stand in the corner until I "got the devil out." Not until I could behave. Until I got the devil out. Everything I did was to keep from going to hell. I remember wanting to run away when I was 12. The only reason I didn't was because disobeying your parents was a sin. I want Matilda to know that if she does something wrong, we're still going to love her. She just has to learn from that and try not to do it again. Kids make mistakes and don't need hell hanging over them to try to stop them from making mistakes. Everything is a guilt trip with my parents. People getting cancer is somehow my fault. When we were fighting on the phone a couple of weeks ago, completely off topic, my mother said, "Uncle Rico has cancer, you know." I don't understand how being Catholic is an excuse for her to be a complete asshole.
Also, she tries to talk me into liking other guys. Or get me into a conversation about it, anyway. She's CONSTANTLY bringing up Matt Farina and Tony Nunes. I've made it clear that I hate both of them. I don't just not like them as boys. I wouldn't be upset if they were found in pieces. Why bring up "they were always nice to you," or "you used to like them" when YOUR DAUGHTER IS MARRIED? I don't know if she thinks I'm being held hostage, or what. And her family supports the way she acts toward Allan. If my grandmother acted like that toward my father, or even if she got my mother into sideways conversations like that, my mother would not be talking to her to this day.
So basically, I'm done. I'm not calling. If they call me, I'll think about answering. It's a crappy situation for my kid to watch. Even now, she's going to start getting the message that my parents are superior to us. I was feeding her avocado and she gagged because my mother was making a racket. "Oh, you don't like that. Mommy made it too big! Yuck. Avocado." That's why I didn't like starches as a kid. At least the distance will help. She won't see them as much and she'll end up seeing me recovering after every visit.
I think we're going to have to go out somewhere new after every time my parents visit to reset Matilda's brain and so that I'm less upset the following week. Can I bill them for stress treatments? There was a new study that found that anger chemicals in the bloodstream lead to early death.
I thought about writing her a letter. But I know it'll be misinterpreted or completely ignored. I wrote my father a 7 page e-mail in college. His response was 3 lines.