Sorting the relationships thing...
Be happy or know the truth?
May sound trite but the answer is not simple. Your choice actually depends on where you already are. How happy you are.
I won't make any assumptions. In fact, I don't care about your situation. Gratefully you don't care about mine.
So I am just sharing some links and thoughts that may help you look at your relationships and related matters more broadly or from a new angle - the way it does actually help me.
Addressing a few hot potatoes that many couples need to touch at some points in their relationships and get their fingers and hearts burnt. Format is simple - a link to a long smart article and my short, stupid conclusion...
- Overall relationships healthcheck:
- Red flags to watch: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/201802/5-relationship-red-flags-you-should-never-ignore
- When things are getting real bad: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fixing-families/201507/4-signs-your-relationship-may-be-over
- Unrecoverably bad: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-forward/201712/4-clear-signs-its-time-let-go-relationship
- Sharing about the past
- To tell or not to tell. And what: https://www.refinery29.com/sharing-relationship-history-advice
- Is the past in the past really: https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/previous-relationship-baggage-and-jealousy?print=true
- Separate vacations: https://www.thespruce.com/separate-vacations-for-married-couples-2303948
- Moving in together: https://www.elitedaily.com/p/before-moving-in-with-your-partner-these-6-things-to-expect-might-surprise-you-8446194
- Managing finances? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/201501/is-the-number-one-relationship-killer-threatening-you
There is no general advice or silver bullet and we all know it inside. No one's ideal and relationships are hard work. Only you both know if it's worth the effort.