I'm sorry if anything I wrote hurt your feelings. I can try to butter you up & pretend it was all in fun, but that's not fair to you. I've been on your side of this (though not online); I know it hurts, and I know that it'll sound like I'm trying to rewrite things. The day I posted was a shitty day for me, and in all fairness I didn't really know you back then, though I realize that doesn't excuse anything.
I was an LJ lurker until about two months ago, and I've learned in the last week how easily things can get blown out of proportion in fandoms (that's what inspired the "fandom wank" icon). I'm still kind of new to LJ, and my learning curve has been skewed. (Who knew that LJ would be similar to high school?) Back then I didn't know you had an LJ, though I would not have brought a random "fight" to your LJ. That seems like a fucktarded thing to do. (Despite being LJ friends with certain people, I don't necessarily support everything they say. I avoided the recent LJ drama because it seemed inane, though after reading your comments I wish I'd offered up my thoughts.)
The SVU fandom is split in so many directions, but some have been able to overlook things like Casey-love & Casey-hate among friends. I would never say that you in particular have "ruined" TWoP for me (not when you've been kind enough to supply the nunstrip link!). Maybe it's the cramps & hormones, but most of the TWoP seems to have taken on a mean tone. Some posters in other show threads are ruthless, so I've avoided TWoP in favor of LJ and AIM. But I hope it's the hiatus that's brought on the fandom wank. If that's not it, I'm blaming Bush.
I'd like to start over and meet you properly, either through e-mail or AIM. Forget about SVU. We can talk about real things, or QaF ;) I know I'm late on the promised QaF post.
BTW, I know the letdown of hearing that you're not a child's favorite. Since I've moved to SoCal, my 7-year-old cousin has picked another cousin as her favorite. Simply because I "live too far away to visit." I looked at her and said, "Ok, but you're my girl, my shadow. And you always say that Jen's crazy! What are you thinking?!"
Very cool of you to reply to this - I'll admit that yours was one of the comments on that post that surprised me. As I said, it was from a month ago, and since I can barely remember what I had for dinner last night, I don't remember what was happening on TWoP at the time. I'll email you about the particulars, but I'm happy to chalk it all up to misunderstanding on both sides.
I think one problem with the TWoP thread is that the split into sub-forums coincided with what a lot of people feel is the downslide of the show. So the show sucks, or aspects of the show suck, and that negativity is magnified because it's in 20 separate threads now, instead of all in one place.
And as was discussed, losing the one thread led to a less community-minded place. Some things were gained, but something was definitely sacrificed, as well.
On the child note - is it wrong to be happy to know I'm not alone in my sad situation? I had the same reaction - I wanted to call my nephew up and say, "But really you like me the best, don't you? Who gets you all that cool stuff?" Hee. I guess I should be happy he's not shallow?
Oh, and no worries on the comment placement - it showed up as a reply to the original post. It's my crappy layout that makes everything look bad.
Thanks so much for chiming in, baby_sis. When work eases up, I will end you an email, but I think/hope everything's cool now.
I think one problem with the TWoP thread is that the split into sub-forums coincided with what a lot of people feel is the downslide of the show.
Exactly, though I like the sub-forums. My first venture to TWoP was on a recapped show, so it took time to adjust to the single thread. Posting in the old thread always felt like interrupting a conversation.
Don't worry about your nephew; he'll come around. Another cousin recently figured out that he'd rather spend quality time with me than get piles of gifts from his other cousins. Almost makes up for his little sister's "favorite cousin" remark.
I was an LJ lurker until about two months ago, and I've learned in the last week how easily things can get blown out of proportion in fandoms (that's what inspired the "fandom wank" icon). I'm still kind of new to LJ, and my learning curve has been skewed. (Who knew that LJ would be similar to high school?) Back then I didn't know you had an LJ, though I would not have brought a random "fight" to your LJ. That seems like a fucktarded thing to do. (Despite being LJ friends with certain people, I don't necessarily support everything they say. I avoided the recent LJ drama because it seemed inane, though after reading your comments I wish I'd offered up my thoughts.)
The SVU fandom is split in so many directions, but some have been able to overlook things like Casey-love & Casey-hate among friends. I would never say that you in particular have "ruined" TWoP for me (not when you've been kind enough to supply the nunstrip link!). Maybe it's the cramps & hormones, but most of the TWoP seems to have taken on a mean tone. Some posters in other show threads are ruthless, so I've avoided TWoP in favor of LJ and AIM. But I hope it's the hiatus that's brought on the fandom wank. If that's not it, I'm blaming Bush.
I'd like to start over and meet you properly, either through e-mail or AIM. Forget about SVU. We can talk about real things, or QaF ;) I know I'm late on the promised QaF post.
BTW, I know the letdown of hearing that you're not a child's favorite. Since I've moved to SoCal, my 7-year-old cousin has picked another cousin as her favorite. Simply because I "live too far away to visit." I looked at her and said, "Ok, but you're my girl, my shadow. And you always say that Jen's crazy! What are you thinking?!"
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I think one problem with the TWoP thread is that the split into sub-forums coincided with what a lot of people feel is the downslide of the show. So the show sucks, or aspects of the show suck, and that negativity is magnified because it's in 20 separate threads now, instead of all in one place.
And as was discussed, losing the one thread led to a less community-minded place. Some things were gained, but something was definitely sacrificed, as well.
On the child note - is it wrong to be happy to know I'm not alone in my sad situation? I had the same reaction - I wanted to call my nephew up and say, "But really you like me the best, don't you? Who gets you all that cool stuff?" Hee. I guess I should be happy he's not shallow?
Oh, and no worries on the comment placement - it showed up as a reply to the original post. It's my crappy layout that makes everything look bad.
Thanks so much for chiming in, baby_sis. When work eases up, I will end you an email, but I think/hope everything's cool now.
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Exactly, though I like the sub-forums. My first venture to TWoP was on a recapped show, so it took time to adjust to the single thread. Posting in the old thread always felt like interrupting a conversation.
Don't worry about your nephew; he'll come around. Another cousin recently figured out that he'd rather spend quality time with me than get piles of gifts from his other cousins. Almost makes up for his little sister's "favorite cousin" remark.
BTW, everything's cool.
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