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[ukulele_player]

half the reason i don't post often is because i can never remember the difference between the different pages or work out if i should post to asperger or just ukulele_player. has anybody got a quick explanation? i don't think i'm always just contacting people who are friended. also, is it important i check with people before i friend them - i don't

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[satyreyes]

If you post as ukulele_player, anyone who has set you as a friend (and has not turned the option to see your posts off) will see your post. Additionally, if you choose to friends-lock your post, only people who you have set as friends can see your post. What this means is that unless you friends-lock your posts, you might get responses from people that aren't on your own friends list -- not necessarily a bad thing, but take your pick. For posts you need to stay private, friends-locking is probably a good idea.

If you post on asperger, anyone who has set asperger as a member community (and, again, has not turned the option to see its posts off) will see your post. This will include a lot of people who are not on your friends list, nor are you on theirs.

Personally, I don't see the big deal about other people putting you on their friends list, but there is kind of an informal rule of etiquette that you should ask permission before you friend someone. The reason for this is that anyone who has set you as a friend can see your non-locked posts, so if you're in the habit of leaving your posts unlocked but still want them to stay private (no, I don't understand why you'd do this either), you want to control whose friends list you're on.

Hope this helps :)

[ukulele_player]

thank you that does help a lot. but i have asperger set as a friend, so i see the occasional one of those on my friends page too which i guess has confused things. actually i just realised setting myself as a friend helps clarify it a bit too, i wondered why i didn't see my last post. what i really want is to pick up anyone who might be interested in chatting without imposing on people, i did wonder if all members of asperger would see me on their friends page regardless which would be ideal.