My emotional breaking point.
I hit my wall yesterday. My emotional straining point with wedding planning. Fifteen days and I hit it.
I hit it because one of my great friends from Pittsburgh replied to my friendly reminder for the RSVP. He responded that he wasn't sure if he and his partner would be able to make it. It wasn't the concern that he wouldn't make it. He had a great reason. He is trying to make a trip down to see his very sick grandmother in South Carolina, who I have known was sick since May-ish. Unfortunately my friend's partner works for the IRS, and getting time off... not easy. I hit my wall because I wanted the time off not to come through, because that meant he could come see me, and I was being selfish. And not because I felt like he shouldn't go see his grandmother.
But because I feel like everyone else who has RSVP'ed no and given a reason has had very shitty reasons.
I literally got an RSVP back from a girl I have been friends with since Jr. High say she couldn't make it because work has a party that night. People won't be attending because they are going to a Football game the next day. They just went on a trip. What gets me is these people have had the STD cards since January. Request off, tell them you had well preplanned plans.
But don't try to sound so sincere to me, in an email, on an RSVP, or in a phone call/text that says you can't make it for some BS reason you could have changed.
I went over to my mom's and I was talking to her about it and I started to cry again. My mom made a great point "the people who want to be there, and are important will be there."
Yes, but some of those who WANT to be and are IMPORTANT, can't.
I can't really post this in the wedding plans community because I think people will blow it way out of proportion, and I am just not interested in that. I just need to vent.
I hit it because one of my great friends from Pittsburgh replied to my friendly reminder for the RSVP. He responded that he wasn't sure if he and his partner would be able to make it. It wasn't the concern that he wouldn't make it. He had a great reason. He is trying to make a trip down to see his very sick grandmother in South Carolina, who I have known was sick since May-ish. Unfortunately my friend's partner works for the IRS, and getting time off... not easy. I hit my wall because I wanted the time off not to come through, because that meant he could come see me, and I was being selfish. And not because I felt like he shouldn't go see his grandmother.
But because I feel like everyone else who has RSVP'ed no and given a reason has had very shitty reasons.
I literally got an RSVP back from a girl I have been friends with since Jr. High say she couldn't make it because work has a party that night. People won't be attending because they are going to a Football game the next day. They just went on a trip. What gets me is these people have had the STD cards since January. Request off, tell them you had well preplanned plans.
But don't try to sound so sincere to me, in an email, on an RSVP, or in a phone call/text that says you can't make it for some BS reason you could have changed.
I went over to my mom's and I was talking to her about it and I started to cry again. My mom made a great point "the people who want to be there, and are important will be there."
Yes, but some of those who WANT to be and are IMPORTANT, can't.
I can't really post this in the wedding plans community because I think people will blow it way out of proportion, and I am just not interested in that. I just need to vent.