I'm not sure where you're getting the sense that the group's given up on you, as I've not really picked up on any of that in my (admittedly) limited interactions with people in general. I've always seen it as kind of the opposite -- the group extends an invitation, but you're forced to reject because you have plans with someone else. Which, I hasten to add, is neither our fault nor yours.
Admittedly, on a personal note, I did feel kind of upset that one night a couple weeks ago when we went to see Rocky Horror. You were excited to go, and you encouraged Krystina to go, but then you kinda bailed at the last minute. Which is totally well and fine, it's your call, but ... it felt almost like the exact opposite of what you're trying to say here. Instead of us giving up on you, you gave up on us. But I'm not trying to lay blame here -- I'm trying to say, this isn't entirely one-sided.
People (myself included) love having you around, and we do get upset when you're not able to join us. Unfortunately, there's a point where people do have to "let go" -- where we accept that you have other things going on and don't press you, because none of us wants to put you in the position of having to say "no". So that might be why you're getting the feeling that the group has moved on. We really haven't -- we're just letting you do your own thing, and for as much as we enjoy your presence, it's still your decision how you want to spend your time.
im just sayin that i havent even talked to anyone really since the 4th...
and re: the rocky horror thing, yea, i wanted to go, but Ken was on his way over and i wasnt going to call him and say, hey im leaving, you have to go home now, plus he was kinda buzzed and i didnt want him driving too far. i would have went with but u guys left way earlier than i thought u were going to, then pretty much everyone left w/o saying goodbye(litteraly) and letting me explain myself...but whatever.
its late (or early), im tired, thats all i have for now...
Nah, I totally get what you're saying. But I think the problem isn't with any one individual in particular -- it's the group as a whole that's drifting apart, you know?
Admittedly, on a personal note, I did feel kind of upset that one night a couple weeks ago when we went to see Rocky Horror. You were excited to go, and you encouraged Krystina to go, but then you kinda bailed at the last minute. Which is totally well and fine, it's your call, but ... it felt almost like the exact opposite of what you're trying to say here. Instead of us giving up on you, you gave up on us. But I'm not trying to lay blame here -- I'm trying to say, this isn't entirely one-sided.
People (myself included) love having you around, and we do get upset when you're not able to join us. Unfortunately, there's a point where people do have to "let go" -- where we accept that you have other things going on and don't press you, because none of us wants to put you in the position of having to say "no". So that might be why you're getting the feeling that the group has moved on. We really haven't -- we're just letting you do your own thing, and for as much as we enjoy your presence, it's still your decision how you want to spend your time.
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and re: the rocky horror thing, yea, i wanted to go, but Ken was on his way over and i wasnt going to call him and say, hey im leaving, you have to go home now, plus he was kinda buzzed and i didnt want him driving too far. i would have went with but u guys left way earlier than i thought u were going to, then pretty much everyone left w/o saying goodbye(litteraly) and letting me explain myself...but whatever.
its late (or early), im tired, thats all i have for now...
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